A SUR­VIVOR’S TALE

Fight­ing do­mes­tic vi­o­lence.

Woman's Era - - Short Story - By Nalini Chaturvedi

Sur­vivor, what does the word mean? As per the Cam­bridge English dic­tio­nary the word means “a per­son who con­tin­ues to live, de­spite nearly dy­ing”. Death is not just or­ganic – death hap­pens at many other lev­els as well.

I too sur­vived death in the hands of some­one whom I had loved the most and in whom I had put all my faith. Yes, I am a sur­vivor of ex­treme do­mes­tic vi­o­lence in the hands of my ex-hus­band. There is no shame in it, no cry for pity, just a state­ment that I make to reach out to you all who have been in sim­i­lar sit­u­a­tions and have no one to share the pains with. It is also an at­tempt to ed­u­cate and sen­si­tise oth­ers who have been lucky not to ex­pe­ri­ence it.

It’s still taboo to talk about such is­sues in our “cul­tured” so­ci­ety. I am just shar­ing my real-life story try­ing to bust some myths and also in­form the pub­lic about how hard it gets to break the cir­cle of vi­o­lence.

In­ti­mate part­ner-vi­o­lence is a pub­lic health con­cern. We still need to do much in the di­rec­tion of pre­vent­ing this so­cial dis­ease.

08/06/2014…around 8 pm in some small town of east­ern UP a woman was dragged by her hair on the con­crete road by her hus­band. She cried out for help, she pleaded her tor­men­tor to have mercy and leave her. Her only crime be­ing to come out of their home out of fear of his fury. An al­ter­ca­tion a few mo­ments ago made her ner­vous. She suf­fered PTSD (post trau­matic stress dis­or­der) due to last 16 years of re­cur­rent episodes of vi­o­lence. The only rea­son she lives on is be­cause the neigh­bours in­ter­vened at the right time, or else ei­ther she would have been killed or crip­pled on that fate­ful day.

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