What No one tells you about Being Married
What after marriage?
Marriage is the bond of two people who promise to stay together for better, for worse and in sickness and health till death separates them. This is what the English vow of marriage says. But in reality it is very difficult for people to understand what they’re getting into when it comes to getting married. All of us have aspirations, hopes, dreams and expectations of what will it feel like? We watch romantic movies, TV shows and even pay attention to marriages in the world around us to try and get a glimpse of this thing we call holy matrimony. But we don’t really know until we’re there, do we? So, here are some unusual things that no one tells you about marriage!
Love is not going to be a constant driving force
Sometimes you’ll be puzzled and you’ll find yourself thinking whether your love is strong enough to go through the problems that you’re facing in your relationship. You’ll start having these doubts about your partner and your bond with him or her. Just so you know questioning yourself about such things is very common and these thoughts can carve their way even into the strongest relationships!
You’ll develop a sense of comfort with each other
When you spend a lot of time with someone you gradually get comfortable with that person without getting embarrassed. You can be weird around him or her. You’ll do bizzare things which you wouldn’t normally do in front of other people. This means that you have reached the epitome of comfort level with your loved one!
You start discovering new things about one another
You’ll frequently start discovering new things about each other. Some quirks about that person make you smile, some drive you mad. Discovering new things about each other helps you develop a better understanding. This is because now you are getting to know him or her better and can easily figure out about him or her likes and dislikes.
Attraction gradually starts fading
The spark in your relationship fades with time. It’s normal. It’s not something you should be worrying about. It happens with every married couple.
Marriage is a two-way street
Effort is required by both the people in a marriage. It is a two-way street and works only if both of the partners are willing to sacrifice, compromise, adjust and adapt themselves to the changes.
You actually marry the whole family
When you marry a person, you marry his or her whole extended family. Although we fall in love with the person, that person is embedded in a social network that has expectations from us that may differ from our own expectations. Marriage is thus all about meeting the obligations in a way that gives satisfaction to both the partners and their families.
Sometimes you will think about ending things
Things may get very difficult to the point where you think you want to end things. You may want to quit and give up. The lure of going back to a free-spirited single life may be strong, but you have to be able to persist despite the temptations to just quit.
You start missing your own personal space
Your life is no longer entirely your own, and you need to make some sacrifices. House rules will be set. You have to take into consideration that you are sharing your life with another person, and the rules must be followed in order to promote balance and harmony. No matter how much in love you may be, there will be times when you want some space, and that’s okay.
You need to accept things you can’t change
Sometimes you guys might not be on the same page and that’s completely okay. This is because your spouse might have different views on a certain issue. You cannot change his or her thinking. The best thing is to accept the things the way they are because acceptance is the key to be truly free from all the stress and sadness.
Difficulties that test the strength of your relationship will arise
You’ll face a lot of hardships in your marriage. However, you must stay confident that your bond is strong enough to face whatever hurdles are thrown your way. Find solace in the fact that the dynamics of your relationship will be enough to pull you through. God gave us the gift of life; it is up to us to give ourselves the gift of living well.