RIGHT PAR­ENT­ING IS FLEX­I­BLE

Woman's Era - - Classifieds -

The ar­ti­cle Paren - ting Done Right in r the beat­ings re­membe We all by our child­hood our But we got in out­fine. we turned par­ents and al­ter­nate it, there are let’s face kids that with your ways of deal­ing or a slap, broom and don’t in­volve grow up As the kids to rolling pin. par­ents hes­i­tate be­come adults not them, why hands on Septem­ber- II is­sue raise their your do not ex­pose be­fore? Also, form of vi­o­lence. child to any pre­vails in vi­o­lence still Do­mes­tic the s and it scars house­hold In­dian want lives. Do you kids for their im­age of you to have an your kids swear­ing at wife or beat­ing your even if you the chase, her? Cut to are a hor­ri­ble a kid, you don’t have hurt your de­mean or bring­ing in key per­son to sense. fam­ily in any you amid be busy for Life might fam­ily work and all your of­fice as­pects of good par­ent­ing was in­for­ma­tive. How­ever, one need to un­der­stand that par­ent­ing as such is a dy­namic phe­nom­e­non and there­fore can­not be gen­er­alised or cat­e­gorised as no sin­gle style of par­ent­ing can be said to be the best be­cause ev­ery child grows in a to­tally dif­fer­ent en­vi­ron­ment and at­mos­phere. Fur­ther, as a child is con­stantly grow­ing with vary­ing de­gree of wants and de­sires, it is im­por­tant ev­ery par­ent in the first place need to study the child's mind, as­sess his/her in­ter­est and ac­cord­ingly need to adapt to the chang­ing needs and per­son­al­ity of the child so that a unique and spe­cial re­la­tion­ship de­vel­ops be­tween the par­ents and the child. In other words, a par­ent try­ing to be too strict and au­thor­i­tar­ian will in no way bond well with the child be­cause such chil­dren tend to be ag­gres­sive and rebel at the slight­est in­ter­fer­ence of the par­ents to im­pose their rules. Be­ing too le­nient and ca­sual is also not a sign of good par­ent­ing inas­much as the child left free to do as he/ she likes may turn out to be im­pul­sive, not know­ing how to deal with friends. Most of the time due to lack of learn­ing, such chil­dren strug­gle to face dif­fer­ent sit­u­a­tions in an ef­fec­tive man­ner. There is no deny­ing the fact that modern- day par­ent­ing is turn­ing com­plex be­cause par­ents them­selves are largely in­flu­enced by the west­ern style, dress and cul­ture which au­to­mat­i­cally per­co­lates into their chil­dren which comes of­ten with mi­nuses and pluses. De­spite all these changes, tem­per­a­men­tally at heart, still we are bound by tra­di­tions.

The fact that money, ma­te­ri­al­ism and hy­per-par­ent­ing in a bid to make their chil­dren su­per kids have in most cases saw such chil­dren end­ing up as su­per­brats or grow­ing up with low self- es­teem. It is im­per­a­tive that par­ents must first try to un­der­stand that the right par­ent­ing is a flex­i­ble, chang­ing and a planned ef­fort that ful­fils the unique needs of the child and be­ing sen­si­tive to so­cio-cul­tural set the child gets at­ten­tion from both the par­ents al­ways so that noth­ing is left to chance when the life of the child is planned.

– R. Srini­vasan, Se­cun­der­abad.

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