RIGHT PARENTING IS FLEXIBLE
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The fact that money, materialism and hyper-parenting in a bid to make their children super kids have in most cases saw such children ending up as superbrats or growing up with low self- esteem. It is imperative that parents must first try to understand that the right parenting is a flexible, changing and a planned effort that fulfils the unique needs of the child and being sensitive to socio-cultural set the child gets attention from both the parents always so that nothing is left to chance when the life of the child is planned.
– R. Srinivasan, Secunderabad.