I am an 18-year-old girl studying in the twelfth standard. I am an only child and both my parents have high-pressure and tough jobs at which they make a lot of money. They spend a lot of this money on me and I get whatever I ask for.
When my parents are away, my father’s widowed sister who lives with us, is supposed to be in charge of me. But my aunt is a weakling whom I am able to wrap around my little finger and so I have my way in everything.
But my aunt is also the person who knows me the best. My parents do not know me at all because they don’t have the time to get to know me. They think that I am still a little girl when the truth is that I am very much an adult--an adult who is a member of the wildest group in the elite school I study in, who cuts classes, drinks and has sex with other members of the group. In fact, I realised a couple of years ago that I am highly sexed and that I need a lot of sex.
Perhaps, this is why I was happy when my parents decided a few months ago that I needed a tutor to supervise my preparation for my school final exams and chose a male teacher for me. This man was middle-aged but it did not take me long to get him obsessed with me. According to the rules my parents had laid down, my aunt had to be in the room while I had my tuition but I asked her to leave and she did so.
From there it was a short step to getting him to have sex with me. To my great satisfaction, the man was highly sexed and we spent many wonderful hours having sex, while my poor aunt wept with fear outside the room. Naturally, I did not do well in my exams – but I didn’t care about that though I wept and said that my tuition master had been useless. My parents believed me and accepted the idea that I would be repeating my 12th standard.
But for some reason, though I had fooled my parents I began to feel an emptiness that I could not account for. I also began to vomit….. and it didn’t take long for my aunt to realise that I was pregnant.
Now, my aunt is ready to kill herself and I am feeling a calmness that I cannot explain. My aunt says that the calmness comes from the baby in my womb. This calm me wants to have the baby---but I am not always calm and another part of me is horrified at the mess that I have got myself into. What on earth should I do? My dear girl, you are in real trouble and if you do not straighten yourself out, you are going to seriously mess up your life. And getting matters into some sort of order is going to be tough.
First of all, both you and your aunt should go to your parents and tell them the truth about what you have been up to and the results of your shenanigans. Unless both your parents are blind, they must surely have suspected that you were up to some mischief and that your aunt was not able to control you. But sometimes parents are unable to see through the antics of the children they adore and what you tell them may come as a total shock to them..
Anyway, it will then be their responsibility to decide how to bring you onto the correct path so that you do not mess up your life completely.
I am a working woman aged thirty two. I had an arranged marriage recently and when my in- laws- to- be and husband- to- be came to know that I was a working woman, they were very happy. But little did I know that this was because they thought that I would bring in another income for the family.
Initially, they were very helpful. My mother- in- law would do the cooking, my father- in- law would do the shopping and my husband would take me out every weekend. When I refused to pay the rent and some bills when I got my first salary after marriage, they changed.
Now, I am expected to do chores, pack my own lunch and cook during the weekend. I think that this is very mean behaviour. I am used to spending the money I earn on myself and I planned to continue doing this.
Is there anything wrong in my thinking? Isn’t a man supposed to provide for his wife?
So you think that a man and his family must look after his wife, but a wife should just look after herself? Doesn’t that sound rather one-sided and selfish to you? Does a man only have to give and does a woman only have to take?
No. my girl! That isn’t how marriage works! Both a husband and a wife have to give and then both get to take. So, the money you earn is as much family money as your husband’s earnings are.
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