A crush de­spite be­ing in a Re­la­tion­ship?

Here's how to han­dle!

Woman's Era - - Short Story - By Medha Chawla

et­ting at­tracted to some­one isn't a con­scious de­ci­sion. It just hap­pens! It doesn't see time, date or your re­la­tion­ship sta­tus; and sud­denly you re­alise that OMG you have spe­cial feel­ings for some­one. Isn't it?

And un­sur­pris­ingly, we all have a crush. You ea­gerly wait for his text and think a lot be­fore replying (so as to make the best im­pres­sion). You just can't stop ogling him like crazy or maybe just his pres­ence takes you to an­other world. feel a bit weird. While it is ab­so­lutely nor­mal to have a crush, but hav­ing a crush while be­ing in a re­la­tion­ship can feel a bit weird. A sud­den set of ques­tions start both­er­ing your head. Are you cheat­ing on your part­ner? Are you the devil of your re­la­tion­ship? Is it morally wrong?...the list goes on!

Well, it is the time you know that hav­ing a crush on some­one at a gym or a guy at work de­spite be­ing in a re­la­tion­ship is ab­soutely NOR­MAL! You are not breach­ing any moral val­ues. You are not a devil. It is per­fectly nat­u­ral. All you need to do is stay calm and get your mind off from the bull­shit. Deal­ing with this weird yet nor­mal sit­u­a­tion is no her­culean task.

Re­mem­ber, it is nor­mal: It might sound ru­pet­i­tive, but this is the first and fore­most way to deal with it. Just know that this is nat­u­ral and nor­mal. Don't in­dulge in over­think­ing. Just be­cause you are in a re­la­tion­ship doesn't mean you can't find any­one cuter or at­trac­tive. Duh­h­hhh!

Is there any is­sue in your re­la­tion­ship?: Ev­ery re­la­tion­ship has the con­sis­tency of waves - some­times high, some­times low. You can view your crush as a nat­u­ral re­minder to an­a­lyse your re­la­tion­ship. Has any dis­tance cropped up be­tween you two? Are you both not spend­ing enough time to­gether? So, counter it all by spend­ing more time with your sig­nif­i­cant other and do­ing fun ac­tiv­i­ties to­gether.

Keep it gra­cious: Ya! You have to keep it all civil with your crush! Don't give him a cold shoul­der as it is not his prob­lem that you have a crush on him. At the same time, don't be so vis­i­bly flat­tered ei­ther. Treat him like any other ac­quain­tance.

Con­trol your temp­ta­tions: In most cases, a crush could just be a phys­i­cal at­trac­tion. If that is the case, don't let mo­men­tary lust­ful feel­ings take over. It is very easy to go with the flow, but later re­al­i­sa­tion of hurt­ing your part­ner will give you guilt feel­ing.

Is it more than a crush?: Think about it! Are you ready to end your re­la­tion­ship for the sake of this crush? Then re­think about the re­la­tion­ship. Do a bit of in­tro­spec­tion what ex­actly do you wish to seek from a re­la­tion­ship. Talk to your part­ner and set­tle for a mu­tual de­ci­sion.


3A woman’s risk of a heart block­age in­creases with her age.

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