FRIENDSHIP The beautiful word
Time to break up with your girlfriend.
ne of the biggest mistakes you can make in life is letting people stay in your life far longer than they deserve”, as said by Drake. Friendship is a beautiful relationship in your life where you are yourself and not worried about your image. When all other relationships are tensed friends bring solace in life and many times are above blood relations. You can turn to your friends for help at any time and they are ready to help without grumble. Friends understand the truth hidden in your life and the words of your silence.
But there are people who do not know the definition of this beautiful word friendship and misuse it. A bad friend is worse than an enemy, an enemy you can see and avoid, but to detect an insincere friend is hard. Bad friendships can only cause emotional, mental, physical or financial suffering. Here are tips to detect a false friend. Remember, you can choose your friends if not your blood relations.
Friendship is based on trust. The secrets that you share with your friend are not meant for gossiping. If your friend finds pleasure in gossiping about your secret causing hurt and pain to you it’s time to break up.
Do you smell something fishy when your friend is in presence of your husband/boyfriend? Is she trying to extract information about him and always finding an excuse to see him? Does her body language, behaviour and looks make you feel uncomfortable when he is present. Then it’s time to break up with your friend. She may be having a crush on your husband/boyfriend and you would not want to jeopardise your relationship with your spouse.
Misunderstandings are part of each relationship. Matured people sort out their misunderstanding amicably. But if your friend is talking negatively about you and spoiling your image in front of others with an intention of revenge or stealing your other friends then its time to break up.
Is your friend too possessive about you that she feels hurt when you hang out with other friends? Does she talk negatively about them to you or tries to create disturbance in your other friendships? Then it’s time to break up.
Is the base of your friendship selfishness? Does your friend contact you only when she needs help? Else is she not concerned with anything else going in your life or your feelings? Does she pester you to do a favour against your will at the cost of your friendship? If yes, then it’s time to break up.
Whether you are dealing with a negative or positive situation a friend always stands besides you without being judgemental. But in time of need if your friend does not stand up for you or help you and avoids staying in contact with you its time to break up. After all, a friend in need is a friend indeed.
Does your friend feel ashamed of introducing you to her other friends if you are not dressed up well or if you turn up in a taxi and not your chauffeur-driven car? Then maybe she is friends with your status and not you. If your status vanishes she will also vanish. Break up with her to direct your life towards something positive.
If you find your friend doing some illegal work or she is planning to harm someone then stay away from her. Her violent nature and negative behaviour will affect your reputation. Remember, a person is known by the company he keeps.
Respect is the most important part of any relationship. If your friend does not treat you respectfully, gives importance to others in your presence and neglects you, is jealous of your achievements, your sorrow does not touch her heart then you will not want her in your life. Break up!
Are you finding it difficult to be yourself in your friend’s company? Are there compatibility issues and you are finding it hard to adjust? Is it always her say and your likings are not given preference? Or you are finding it obligatory to hang out with her? Just break up.
It is better to have one good friend than many bad friends.
I am very fond of cooking and baking. Does the temperature of all the ingredients used in a cake matter in the making of the cake?
Yes, the temperature of all the ingredients does affect the quality of the cake. Keep all the ingredients at the same temperature while making the batter. Mixing hot and cold spoils the texture.
Butter is the best, these days we are using more and more butter in our diet. Please tell us more about it.
Yes this is true, everything tastes better with butter. Of all the natural, basic and ancient ingredients , butter is the best tasting and the most versatile. Luxury ingredients too need butter, as do the simple things of life are elevated to new levels once butter is added. However, Indian food has, traditionally, been less dependent on butter- we use ghee. The problem with butter is that it spoils easily. But that has changed too as refrigeration has made it easy to transport and store butter. Our ancestors, though got around this by creating ghee from butter. Not only ghee is better for cooking, it also does not spoil for a long time. Butter if not taken in excess, does very little harm.
What is ghee, how can we make it at home?
Ghee is nothing but clarified butter. Though it is also made by other societies for cooking, but not as well as the Indians do. India has been exporting ghee to many countries. We can make ghee by heating butter in a heavybottomed pan or kadahi on low flame, stirring continuously, till the fat separates. Strain and store in a clean and dry bottle. We still love our ghee, it is our base fat and many Indian dishes and sweets do not taste right unless prepared in ghee. What are baking powder and baking soda? Do they serve the same purpose in cooking and baking?
If you are fond of baking, you will need both the items in your pantry. Baking soda and baking powder are both chemicals having the properties to expand the batter or the dough to which they are added. Baking powder causes baked items to rise rather than spread, while baking soda does the opposite. For example, if you like a crisp chocolate-chip cookie, use baking soda for a flatter cookie. Baking powder will produce a softer, more cake- like cookie. So, use the two products, depending on the results you want. Also, keep in mind the expiry date for baking powder, while baking soda has no expiry date.
Kindly let me know the meaning of the terms: poach, scald and steep which we come across in various recipes.
To poach means, to cook something such as a fish or an egg with its shell removed by putting it in gently boiling (just below the boiling point) water or other liquid. Scald is a cooking technique, usually used in reference to milk. It means to heat a liquid to a point where it’s just about to reach the boiling point. At this point, small bubbles will start to appear around the edges. Steep essentially means soak. To steep means to allow dry ingredients, such as coffee, tea or spices, to soak in a liquid until the liquid takes on the flavour of the dry ingredient.
Even chilled fruit punch has to be served with ice, be it summer or winter season. The ice keeps it cold but also dilutes it . Can you suggest a way to avoid this?
This is a real problem, as most people do not enjoy their cold drink without ice, however cold or chilled it may be. But this problem can be easily solved. Freeze some juice or fruit punch in an ice tray and serve the drink with these cubes rather than the plain water ice cubes. Not only this is more decorative, but it also prevents melting and hence diluting of the drink.
What things should we keep in mind while buying a pineapple?
This is true, that no one likes to bite into a slice of a sour and unripe pineapple. To avoid this: gently squeeze the fruit. It should be firm but the skin should be slightly soft. There should be no indented or squishy spots. A good pineapple that is ripe and juicy will feel heavy. An overripe pineapple will smell vinegary, while a ripe one will smell sweet. You can test if a pineapple is ripe by trying to pluck out one of the leaves near the centre. If it comes out fairly easily then the pineapple is fit for buying. A golden base also indicates that the sugar has formed in the fruit and hence is sweet and ready to eat. Buy a pineapple in ripe condition the same day that you intend to use it; that way , it will be fresh.
This is the season of jaggery eating, how beneficial is jaggery for us?
Jaggery is famous by the name ‘gur’ all over India and has been used all over the world because of its therapeutic and nutritional health benefits. Yes, jaggery contains minerals like zinc and selenium and vitamins that sugar does not have. It keeps our body warm, that is why we eat jaggery mostly in the winter season and not in the summers. It aids in digestion and prevents constipation. It is loaded with antioxidants. It boosts immunity and also protects us against lung discomfort and purifies blood. It sweetens our food in a healthy manner. – Savita Bhargava