What is Pho­bia?

You are pho­bia and you don't even know it.

Woman's Era - - Short Story - By Anupriya Khanna

Do you feel that be­ing sin­gle is the worst thing that can hap­pen in your life? Is it hard for you to spend time on your own? Do you hate the very idea of not be­ing in a re­la­tion­ship? If yes, there is a great chance that you are a pho­bic. Here are a few signs that can con­firm it.

You are al­ways in a re­la­tion­ship with no breaks in be­tween.

No­body re­mem­bers the last time you were not in a re­la­tion­ship. You are con­stantly seen break­ing up to get into an­other long-term re­la­tion­ship. Though by do­ing this you might feel that you are not alone and that you have some­one around you all the time. But this is def­i­nitely head­ing nowhere. When you break up with some­one, there is al­ways a rea­son be­hind it. Give your­self some time to un­der­stand what went wrong. Try to in­tro­spect and know what type of per­son you want to be in a re­la­tion­ship.

You don't think be­fore choos­ing your part­ner

Be­cause you are afraid of be­ing sin­gle, you go on dat­ing ran­domly. One mo­ment you are seen break­ing up with some­one, an­other mo­ment you are seen get­ting in a new re­la­tion­ship with some­one you hardly know. You don't think twice be­fore get­ting into a re­la­tion­ship. You don't have any check­list of how your mate should look like or what qual­i­ties he or she should pos­sess. When some­one tries to ex­plain that your new love is not good for you and is cheat­ing you, you feel of­fended and rather be­lieve that the other per­son can't bear to see you happy.

You don't mind stay­ing in toxic re­la­tion­ships

Even when your re­la­tion­ship is too toxic and is ad­versely af­fect­ing you emo­tion­ally and phys­i­cally, you opt to go on with it. You give all your heart and soul to make it work. You are too keen about the idea of al­ways be­ing in a re­la­tion­ship that half of the times you don't even re­alise that your part­ner is cheat­ing on you. No one should tol­er­ate any sort of neg­a­tive com­ments, in­fi­delity, dis­hon­esty, emo­tional or sex­ual abuse in a re­la­tion­ship.

You com­pletely lose your­self in your re­la­tion­ship

You get too much into your re­la­tion­ship and the per­son you are dat­ing that you even lose your­self in the process. You al­low your­self to for­get all your goals. All of a sud­den you are okay watch­ing TV shows and do­ing things you once hated the most. You don't speak up about your likes and dis­likes and go on adopt­ing your part­ner's likes and dis­likes. Also, your part­ner got into a re­la­tion­ship with you for who you were and not the new twin ver­sion that you are turn­ing into.

You have tried al­most ev­ery dat­ing app

Just to feel se­cure, you al­ways keep your­self equipped with a good num­ber of op­tions. And for that, you have tried al­most ev­ery kind of dat­ing and mat­ri­mo­nial app. You spend hours swip­ing and hav­ing mind­less chat with­out ever meet­ing some­one in real life.

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