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m not a doctor. Rather, a patient myself when it comes to gynaecology. What is fertility? When you are able to reproduce, you are fertile.
Major causes for infertility are just two in my opinion. Bad lifestyle and impatience.
Days are short when we see the commitments and expectations on us and our life is getting much shorter when we handle them. Five years after marriage is when doctors are not supposed to encourage the couple coming for a treatment regarding infertility. But sometimes money overtakes the ethics.
Starting from a simple pill, it grows. A pill to regulate your cycle, and that doesn’t work much.
A pill for ovulation, still we get an ovulatory cycle. “It sometimes happens,” their safe reply.
Then a pill for ovulation, an injection for improving egg size, an injection for rupturing the egg at the right size, a pill for sustaining pregnancy, a pill for bringing the menses on the right cycle. All these go with a scan every alternate day, at least for 7 -10 days in a month.
This is preceded by a blood test quite often for hormone imbalance check and succeeded by another one to check for pregnancy if the menses still has not responded to their medicine. Who knows why a urine pregnancy test is there. If the UPT is positive, “Still it is better if we go for Beta HCG test to confirm pregnancy”. If it fails, “Let’s wait, it doesn’t sometimes reflect the correct position early” or “Let’s not leave the cycle go longer, let’s go for a HCG test”. Anyway blood test, why UPT?
Next step,“let us check for PCOD or tubular block”, a scan, then HSG, then laproscopy.
Even if it shows all okay, not able to zero in on the perfect reason, they move on to the male partner. Until then men would be completely free of charges. Your count, motility, all crap is down. Give them the pill. That doesn’t work even on a teetotaller.
“Even if your man is little down, if yours is powerful it can give you
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Semen analysis, getting all good stock for test and leaving the rest for the couple to test their luck. Check right from varicocele to prostate cancer. Surgical procedures to tie the loose ones and remove the tight ones, what else?
IUI is one default procedure that would have been done at least 5-6 times by this time. When the quality of sperm is not good, or the egg or uterus is not healthy, how can this IUI be successful or even if it is, what is the assurance that the foetus formed would be healthy?
If this fails, then a counselling. 1.5-2L for sperm collection and IVF. With 33 per cent chance and that improves until you are trying without losing hope till your 6th attempt.
Each time 2L. Fusing the egg and sperm externally and placing the fused one in uterus.
I really don’t know if something beyond this is happening!
The reasons, as I said, are just two.
Work, work, work. You are not paid to match your work. Be honest to your job and not the employer. He hardly cares when you struggle. Days when bosses came to your home, inquiring about your health, when sick, are all gone.
Getting up late as you sleep late after a day’s tiring work schedule.
Eating when your employer or your work permits.
Sticking to the seat without even realising you are not attending to your nature calls on time.
Sleeping the whole weekend without knowing you are born to enjoy life and relationships.
Forgoing the beautiful occasions to meet friends and relations. No point in finding fault with them when you don’t mingle with them.
Stressed, wanting to forget all the junk your boss threw on you and you yourself have accumulated, drinking, smoking, drugs use, etc.
Considering the pressure at office, home should be a haven. But spoiling the haven bringing the pressures packed from office. Reacting here.
Celebrations at office do not skip burgers, pizzas, cokes, hot drinks, etc.
Simply, no physical work, lot of mental stress rather than mental work.
We do not wait for anything. Everything we do is time bound.
Just think who are we doing it all for. If it is you, you fix the timeline. Life is yours.
Life is actually not too short when you live it. You can give the maximum time for anything. It is only the first reason that gives this. Bad lifestyle gives you the impatience factor.
For example, you overwork at office and come home late, you lose your patience to wait for dinner and prepare your bed. You scold your lady. Both of you end your day stressed. Instead, say to your boss that you are done for the day, let him take tensions and appoint one more person for the team. Come home soon. You will have the patience even if your meal is a bit late.
With so many mental pressures, it is meaningless to blame in a couple for childlessness. Adding to that, due to social pressures, you yield going for treatments. “Sooner the better” doesn’t work out everywhere.
Wait for a normal labour, not for a good time or star. That is not the child’s star. I have heard doctors asking “Decide on a good day for your delivery”. Who is to decide the start of a new life?
A fancy number for everything, right from your vehicle to birth date for your kid. Sustain labour, don’t show your impatience and enjoy a life of miseries. Be patient and wait till you conceive normally at least for the first five years.
Shortcuts can be applied only when the original file is there in your system. When the file goes missing and you are attempting to open it with a shortcut – you think that works? Preserve your file. No need of shortcuts, like that you can just access what you want at any point in time.
Save some money for your future, that erases the job insecurity – induced stress.
Don’t act with relations. Be you and make it clear, you are you. This removes the relationship insecurity-induced stress.
Work for what you have been paid. This covers your guilty conscience-induced stress.
Do not have too much of attachment to materials. This reverses your life insecurity. You can sustain at any state of wealth, if you are going to be good at heart.
Trust people outside office. Don’t doubt everything around you. This bombards most on your stress.
Go out with family quite often. This will improve your confidence that someone is there to care for you and your life is not just a black and white picture but does have colours.
Find a way out from within yourself and not with anyone else.
When you go to doctors, you will no longer be you stress? Meet a psychologist. You are depressed. You are a regular customer to them.
You are not living for others. Helping others is good. But only that is not your job.
WITH SO MANY MENTAL PRESSURES, IT IS MEANINGLESS TO BLAME A COUPLE FOR CHILDLESSNESS. ADDING TO THAT DUE TO SOCIAL PRESSURES, YOU YIELD GOING FOR TREATMENTS. “SOONER THE BETTER” DOESN’T WORK OUT EVERYWHERE.