AM THE ELDEST OF THREE DAUGHTERS IN OUR FAMILY. NOW THAT I I am 17 years old, my parents have already started looking around for a marriage alliance for me. They feel with three girls, it is important to start marrying them off soon. But I don’t want to
Unfortunately, sometimes the demands of practical reality bring so much distress. It is not difficult to understand your father’s quandary, and also your frustration.
Try to make him understand that you will not stand in the way of your younger sisters’ marriages . Neither will you be dependent on him for your living as you want to have a good career.
There is every possibility that you will meet your soul mate in the coming years and will decide to marry, even if a little late.
Ask your older empathetic relatives to intervene on your behalf.
You could even ask your father to find you a groom who will allow you to study further and get a career. This will solve the dilemma very nicely.
● Y HEIGHT IS 5’2” AND I WEIGH AT 70 KG. I AM A 15- YEAR-OLD girl. Please tell me how I can bring down my weight without going to the gym or walks because I do not have time for this.
Two things are vital for weight loss….diet and exercise. Get a professional nutritionlist to make a diet chart for you,and follow it meticulously.
It would have been best to join a gym or to go on brisk walks, but since you are unable to do this, here are ways which you can adopt at home itself:
Get a skipping rope and do spot skipping. It is great for burning calories.
Buy a treadmill and walk or jog on it daily for at least a half hour. This simulates walking outdoors.
Do bending exercises, squats and even yoga asanas on as many days as possible.
Invest in a good weighing machine and weigh yourself once a week.with this regimen, you are sure to become slimmer in the days to come.
M Y PROBLEM IS NOT A COMPLEX ONE BUT IT IS
of much importance for me. I am a 15year-old school girl who is on the plump side. All my friends wear short hot pants but I avoid these because of my fat thighs.
My friends tell me to wear short pants if I want to, and not care about what others think. I try hard to lose weight but have not had much success so far. What would you advise? What a person wears is his or her own prerogative, but care should be taken that there the garments do not offend others’ sensibilities…that these are not indecent, or immodest in any way.
Wearing short pants even when your thighs are plump does not seem to be a bad idea. Perhaps, you could keep these a wee bit longer so that you feel comfortable wearing these? Also keep your thighs and legs smooth, blemish and hair-free.
Do not keep tugging at them, or show that you are feeling embarrassed in them, because this will draw attention to you. Wear the shorts with confidence,and you will be great.
The easiest way to lose weight in the thigh area is to walk, run or cycle. You can do spot jogging to music right in your home if you wish and you will find gratifying results within a month.
AM A 16- YEAR- OLD GIRL WITH AN IRRITATING PROBLEM. MY mother has this annoying habit of checking the messages on my phone whenever she lays hands on it. I have remonstrated several times but she says I should not get het up as there is nothing I should keep away from her!
Mum is a sweet and loving person, but has rather old fashioned views. She does not realise that everyone’s privacy has to be respected. How do I deal with this? You need tact and diplomacy to deal with this problem. Firstly, do keep in mind that your mother means no harm and is genuinely puzzled by your frustration. Explain to her gently that a person’s privacy has to be respected, that your friends’ mums do not do this, and that you are teased because of this.
If she realises that you are unhappy, she may desist from this behaviour.
Perhaps she is bored with time on her hands? It would be a good idea to ask your dad to get her a smart phone when she can busy herself with her own messages?
Anyway, it is a good idea to read and delete any messages you get which you do not want her to read.
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