IAM A 14- YEAR-OLD SCHOOL GIRL FOR SOME DAYS, WHEN I GO TO I school and return, I notice a man following. He keeps a safe distance between us. Sometimes I see him standing across the road in front of our house and watching the entrance. I am worried, although he has not done anything or spoken to me.
What should I do? I don’t want to tell my parents because they will become hyper and go ballistic. Please advise.
This man seems to be a stalker, and you should take care. It is best to inform your parents at once about your suspicions, so that they can inform the police if necessary. Your father may wish to first meet the man and ask him what he is doing loitering around your house.
There are lots of perverts around and even if you feel your parents will over-react, it is best to be safe than sorry later on.
IAM VERY WORRIED ABOUT MY OLDER BROTHER. HE IS 18 YEARS old and in college studying commerce. On many occasions recently, I have seen him pilfering money from Mummy’s purse. I have a feeling that he is doing drugs. Once he had told me that many of his friends are addicted.
I can’t tell my father, as he is very short-tempered and he will throw my brother out of the house. Mummy is very gentle and will be unable to do anything. What should I do? I am a 14-year-old girl.
Your suspicions hopefully are unfounded and your brother may be just short of funds. All the same, it is wrong to steal…why not ask for money?
You should let him know that you know what he is doing. Listen to his explanation. Ask him directly if he is taking drugs…and to stop, if he is, or that you will inform the parents.
You could ask for help from good older relative or friend who will discreetly deal with the situation. But to approach them, sidelining your father is not right…so tell your father if your suspicions are proved correct. He may lose his temper but he will know what to do to put his son back on track.
IAM ONLY 13- YEARS-OLD BUT HAVE A BUXOM FIGURE. I WANT TO wear a bra for support but Mom says at this age, it should not be worn as it constricts growth.nothing I say is making her change her views as she has a traditional and old fashioned mind set.
Your mom has, unfortunately a wrong idea. It is very important to support a growing bosom in young girls with a good supportive bra. Infact, many good manufacturers have special teenage bras in their collection which cater specially for young girls like you.
Show her some advertisements on these products…you can get them on the net….and she may be convinced. Or, you could get an aunt or older cousin to educate her on this subject. It should be impressed upon her that not having support for the breasts is just not inadvisable for health reasons but for aesthetic reasons too. You could, inadvertently be inviting lewd glances. I
AM A 16- YEAR-OLD SCHOOL GIRL WHO WEARS SPECS FROM THE time I was 5 years old….and I hate wearing glasses! I long to get laser surgery done so that I can throw away the ugly specs….but my parents are refusing to agree. I feel so frustrated and depressed. How can I convince them?
You are probably too young to have this procedure done. Have you consulted an ophthalmologist yet? Usually only adults qualify for this because your vision will continue to change for some years before it stabilises. If the surgery is done too early, you may need to again revert to specs after some time.
What exactly are your parents’ reservations? The cost might be beyond their means, perhaps? If this is the case, it is unfair to demand it from them. Wait till you can afford to fund the procedure yourself.
At the present juncture, you could use trendy glasses which enhance your appearance, and of course contact lenses which can dispense with the ‘ugly specs” altogether.
IAM IN CLASS 11 AND A VERY GOOD BADMINTON PLAYER. I DEVOTE several hours daily for practice and am in the school team. But this schedule leaves me little time for studying, and I am afraid that low grades will not get me admission in college. Will my sports status be helpful for getting a seat? My parents are pressurising me to stop playing and start studying. Please advise.
Yes, if you are very good in badminton, you could get admission in the sports quota which some colleges have…but there is no guarantee in this as there is a lot of competition here. Also, your grades should not be too low for consideration for this.
It is advisable you start paying attention to your academics now seriously so that you are not left in the lurch. You should realise that there are lots and lots of aspirants for the sports quota and you have to be really good to be accepted.