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IS RESER­VA­TION A MEANS FOR PA­TRI­O­TISM?

This refers to the in­spir­ing ar­ti­cle, Mean­ing Of Pa­tri­o­tism For You? ( WE Au­gust I, 2018). In this ar­ti­cle the writer is strictly against the pro­vi­sion of 'Reser­va­tion' pro­vided to the SC/ST can­di­dates and has cited the ex­am­ple of the USA/ UK where no reser­va­tion is pro­vided. Per­son­ally I am also against ' it' but I must men­tion here that the pro­vi­sion of 'reser­va­tion' is di­rectly re­lated to the mal­prac­tice of ' un­touch­a­bil­ity' and no such mal­prac­tice is in ex­is­tence in the USA/UK!

Reser­va­tion should be pro­vided to just one gen­er­a­tion of the re­served cat­e­gories and not to all the fu­ture gen­er­a­tions so that at least ' one gen­er­a­tion' of all the fam­i­lies un­der the ' re­served' cat­e­gories should ' avail' the ben­e­fit at least ' once'. What we should keep in mind is that ' reser­va­tion' is be­ing pro­vided to counter the mal­prac­tice of ' un­touch­a­bil­ity' preva­lent in the up­per caste (Brah­min, Ksha­triya and Vaishya) of the In­dian so­ci­ety and Dr Ambed­kar pre­sumed that af­ter about 10 years of its im­ple­men­ta­tion, this mal­prac­tice ( un­touch­a­bil­ity) would be abol­ished but the 'po­lit­i­cal sys­tem' of this coun­try is so 'cor­rupt' that all the po­lit­i­cal par­ties made a ' tool' of it ( reser­va­tion) to garner votes!

Re­fer­ring to this ar­ti­cle and co­in­cid­ing it with the 71st an­niver­sary of the In­dian In­dep­n­dence on the 15th Au­gust, 2018; I have one ques­tion: Ev­ery year we have thou­sands of new IAS/ IPS/ IIT/ MBA/ MBBS, etc. Even 1 per cent of them don't de­clare that they will not take any 'bribe' and/or will not 'ha­rass' the pub­lic and that they will live on their 'salaries' only. Then, what is the need of fol­low­ing any 'so called' re­li­gion if they are not hon­est in their re­spec­tive pro­fes­sions? Is it pa­tri­o­tism?

– Suresh Prasad, Dar­jeel­ing.

LIES OF SO­CIAL PRES­TIGE

The ar­ti­cle False So­cial Pres­tige July II is­sue clearly ex­plains the grad­ual de­te­rior - ation in hu­man­ity, among our so­ci­ety. Telling lies to earn so­cial pres­tige and main­tain­ing it by con­tin­u­ing a bad habit, will one day make him re­veal his true self. ' Mem­ory' is some­thing very im­por­tant for a liar, and he is sure to get caught red-handed, if he for­gets the lie he had told pre­vi­ously, as truth can be vi­su­alised even af­ter sev­eral years, while false in­for­ma­tions are imag­i­na­tive and fades with time. Most of the politi­cians of to­day are well known liars, gain­ing name

RAHUL GANDHI INABLE TO TAKE LEAD?

Ap­pro­pos the edi­to­rial The Hug, The Wink And The Miss..." in WE-- Au­gust I. The tim­ing cho­sen by TDP sup­ported by op­po­si­tion to move a no-con­fi­dence mo­tion in or­der to cor­ner the gov­ern­ment is­sues back­fir­ing has put the op­po­si­tion in em­bar­rass­ment. In short, when the poll in three states are due at the end of the year and the lok sabha polls early next year, the trust mo­tion at this junc­ture when there were no num­bers was not only hasty but in­signif­i­cant. In fact, the man­ner the de­bate went on for eleven hours in the house with Rahul Gandhi once again frit­tered away a golden op­por­tu­nity to counter Modi ef­fec­tively. In fact, Rahul still not ac­quired the bite to and fame by dis­hon­est means and try­ing to pre­serve them, go to any ex­tent. Though me­dia tele­casts these speeches and its pub­lished in News­pa­pers, given in writ­ing , our politi­cians hardly bother to ful­fill their words or serve their Con­stituency. They take the pub­lic for granted and are in for a ride.

Cit­i­zens with knowl­edge and In­tel­li­gence se­lected as Politi­cians to rule our coun­try should be based on merit and ser­vice done by them to the so­ci­ety, with hon­esty with­out and dis­crim­i­na­tion in Re­li­gion is the 'only way' false pres­tige of hu­mans, can come to an end.

– Preetha Ren­gaswamy, Chen­nai.

SHOULD ADUL­TERY BE DE­CRIM­I­NALISED?

While mak­ing a sub­mis­sion in the case filed by a pe­ti­tioner for de­crim­i­nal­is­ing gay sex by amend­ing Ar­ti­cle 377, the In­dian gov­ern­ment ob­served that they are in­clined to leave the mat­ter to the wis­dom of the Supreme Court and that the court could take an ap­pro­pri­ate

ar­tic­u­late his views prop­erly and added to this, his ca­sual ap­proach dur­ing the ex- tem­pore speech with­out facts and fig­ures un­der­lines the fact that it will be dif­fi­cult for the party to re­gain the space. This apart, Rahul's un­ex­pected and dis­arm­ing hug of Modi in the house not only took ev­ery­one by sur­prise but clearly re­vealed his in­abil­ity to take the lead in an all im­por­tant and se­ri­ous de­bate. All in all, look­ing at the dis­ap­point­ing per­for­mance of Rahul in the house, it is clear that congress un­der Rahul Gandhi may not be able to keep all the par­ties to­gether and in good hu­mour.

In the end, BJP got a shot in the arm for putting across its achieve­ments and views clearly which got more than ex­pected sup­port of 325 mem­bers against 126 re­ceived by the op­po­si­tion.

– R. Srini­vasan, Se­cun­der­abad.

de­ci­sion. ( Love Out­side Mar­riage – WE – July II). In the same breath how­ever the gov­ern­ment ap­pealed to the apex court not to decriminalise adul­tery as that would se­ri­ously im­pact the con­cept of mar­riage and the sanc­tity as­so­ci­ated with it. There has al­ways been a feel­ing that the law gov­ern­ing adul­tery in its present form is heav­ily loaded in favour of the fair sex as in any adul­ter­ous re­la­tion­ship it is only the male who has to face the rap and who can be tried in court and sen­tenced to a jail term. The women who could be a will­ing part­ner in the re­la­tion­ship thus mak­ing it con­sen­sual can get away scot­free. With re­gard to the gov­ern­ment’s ar­gu­ment it is crys­tal clear that when a man or a woman in a mar­riage strays and fos­ters an­other re­la­tion­ship the trust be­tween the cou­ple, of­ten re­ferred to as mar­i­tal vows stands breached as a third party has en­tered the pic­ture. It is also per­ti­nent to ob­serve that adul­tery gen­er­ally takes place when mar­i­tal re­la­tions have reached a rough patch and mar­i­tal sat­is­fac­tion has gone for a toss. That is the point when the mar­riage is at its weak­est and when an op­por­tu­nity presents it­self ei­ther the man or the woman vol­un­tar­ily en­ters into a new re­la­tion­ship forg­ing a new bond with­out sev­er­ing the ear­lier one. Adul­tery hurts all the more where a stray­ing cou­ple has chil­dren be­cause there could be fre­quent quar­rels that could have an ad­verse im­pact on young and grow­ing chil­dren who might even end up devel­op­ing a warped no­tion about mar­riage it­self. So de­crim­i­nal­is­ing adul­tery which would make all such re­la­tion­ships out­side mar­riage per­fectly le­gal can have a desta­bil­is­ing ef­fect on mar­riages and in many cases a split could well be­come in­evitable. The gov­ern ment’s stand on the is­sue there­fore is wel­come but the law should cer­tainly be tweaked to make it gen­der neu­tral as presently it is bi­ased in favour of women.

– Vi­jay­alak­shmi A., Ben­galuru.

ANX­I­ETY IN THE MODERN ERA

The cases of so­cial anx­i­ety to­day have snow­balled since the past few years. Though it could have causes like chem­i­cal prob­lems, so­cial anx­i­ety is traced to stream from var­i­ous life ex­pe­ri­ences such as child­hood bul­ly­ing, ex­treme stress of per­for­mance, bad so­cial ex­pe­ri­ences, and non-in­clu­sion by groups but the big rea­son in the modern world is very much as­so­ci­ated with the rise of elec­tronic so­cial me­dia. To­day more and more peo­ple seem to be in­clined to­wards por­tray­ing them­selves as the ‘ideal’ pro­to­type of their age and gen­der. Such por­trayal can lessen their con­fi­dence to face the real sit­u­a­tions with a real them. Also, due to ex­treme ex­ter­nal­i­sa­tion and ma­te­ri­al­i­sa­tion there is hardly any at­ten­tion is given to the self-es­teem of any in­di­vid­ual. As the child grows up, he sees him­self al­ways on a com­pet­i­tive chart with some­one on some pa­ram­e­ter or the other.

The com­pe­ti­tion has made young­sters cruel and non- in­clu­sive and groups of­ten ‘ ac­cept’ those who would fol­low the leader. This dents the self-es­teem of those who nei­ther fol­low, nor com­mand, nei­ther stand out nor blend. And they are fur­ther forced to­wards prov­ing them­selves on some com­pe­ti­tion or other. Such fac­tors of­ten de­velop so­cial anx­i­ety com­ing from a fear of re­jec­tion and ridicule. These con­di­tions can be fixed pro­vided the modern day gen­er­a­tion finds out a good al­ter­na­tive to so­cial me­dia. This is just the tip of the ice­berg as the prob­lem is likely to ag­gra­vate till it be­comes a me­nace tough to han­dle. Its high time, we act and build a dam against the strong waves and tide of so­cial me­dia which is push­ing our com­ing gen­er­a­tion to­wards so­cial anx­i­ety.

– Mohd Zeyaullah Khan, Nagpur.

The prize is awarded to: R. Srini­vasan, Se­cun­der­abad.

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