How dare you do it?

You're a mere woman that too a Mus­lim woman!!!

Youth Street News - - Opinion - Mehnaz nasreen

Apart from the iden­tity cri­sis I face any­where I go due to my looks, the uni­ver­sal dis­crim­i­na­tion of me be­ing a woman tops the list! And the ic­ing on the cake is me be­ing a Mus­lim woman…

In the so­ci­ety we live in, we all know that women are not ex­pected to do a man's job! Women are ex­pected to be ruled by men. Men can't be work­ing un­der a woman. She can't be a boss. She can't dom­i­nate men. She should be sub­mis­sive and what not all! For­get about our so­ci­ety! Even Amer­i­cans de­nied to be ruled by a woman so they chose a joker in­stead. Of course, not ac­cept­ing the idea of be­ing ruled by a woman!

How great the ideas and thoughts of a woman might be, they are not con­sid­ered great, ex­cept by few! But the worst part is, a woman be­ing dis­crim­i­nated by a fel­low woman! For in­stance, a mother-in­law dis­crim­i­nat­ing her daugh­ter-in-law, mak­ing her daugh­ter-in-law al­ways fol­low her or­der! An­other in­stance, a woman hold­ing a high post in a gov­ern­ment and dis­crim­i­nat­ing the ones work­ing un­der her! The worst is yet to come for women en­trepreneurs like me who chose not to work un­der any­one due to the above rea­sons. In­stead of sup­port­ing one an­other due to the uni­ver­sal dis­crim­i­na­tion we, as a woman, face in the so­ci­ety, var­ied women try to stran­gle each other's strength by some or other ways. This be­ing an ex­am­ple, let me come to an or­deal of be­ing a woman en­tre­pre­neur who is a Mus­lim.

Well, it is seen and heard and look down by the so­ci­ety that a "Pan­gal Nupi" can't come out from her home and study and work, but when this same "Pan­gal Nupi" comes out to be a part of the de­vel­op­ment process of the so­ci­ety, she doesn't see much of sup­port from the so­ci­ety. Their pre-con­ceived no­tion of a Pan­gal Nupi is al­ways there in their mind set. They find it very hard to see a woman who be­longs to a Mus­lim com­mu­nity to take ac­tive roles in the world of man's job. So in­stead of en­cour­ag­ing that ef­fort, peo­ple are here to crit­i­cise and talk be­hind her back of tak­ing up such work.

And when she shares ideas or pro­pos­als to some peo­ple, she is ap­pre­ci­ated for her ef­forts. But as soon as she gets out of that room, it's hard for them to digest the fact that it's been given by a Pan­gal Nupi, who is sup­posed to hide un­der her fam­ily and who is sup­posed to be an un­e­d­u­cated. These peo­ple never want her to be in the fore­front! Be­cause they are used to see­ing these type of women al­ways sub­mis­sive. And they don't want her to progress, what­so­ever! Worst is the women sit­ting on the top! They might be think­ing, "how come this woman be­long­ing to this com­mu­nity has the au­dac­ity to come in fore­front!" And they make sure she doesn't progress and gets no recog­ni­tion or ac­knowl­edg­ment for her con­tri­bu­tions or ideas or thoughts that she pos­sesses!

Ev­ery­body shouts on mics about women em­pow­er­ment and all! This scheme and that scheme for women...well, it just looks good on pa­per! But on ex­e­cu­tion level, I have seen it my­self that all the data and peo­ple are bought or forged or forced upon! The de­serv­ing ones don't get their share!

I ain't com­plain­ing or crib­bing here...just for a sec­ond, please please… think, how much this woman must have strug­gled or strived to be in that po­si­tion. Start­ing in from her house, to her com­mu­nity or the male-dom­i­nated so­ci­ety! Why so much of dif­fer­en­ti­a­tion, just be­cause she is a woman?? What harm she will bring to you if she is given a plat­form to show­case her tal­ent?? Why is she an out cast just be­cause she is a woman or she is a Mus­lim or she is a Tribal or be­longs to a mi­nor­ity com­mu­nity or a fairer sex?? Why can't she take part in the se­ri­ous dis­cus­sions and plans that you do?? Why?? Why?? Why??

This is very sad­den­ing be­cause I am also a woman and I am also a proud Mus­lim woman who is striv­ing to con­trib­ute her bit for the de­vel­op­ment of so­ci­ety! And a Big Big Thank You to few of those who have been sup­port­ing such women.

Be­fore I die...i wish to see a world with no dis­crim­i­na­tion be­cause of sex, caste, colour or re­li­gion. Sooooooooooo many hopes, I know!! Well… We shall over­come some­day...

God bless us all!

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