A Ceremonial Concession
A traditional Javanese wedding is a concession of ceremonies, each filled with meaning and significance that could never be summed up by just two words: “I feel blessed of where I am today.
But most importantly, I embrace and accept ‘marriage’ as my next step in life, regardless of the different challenges that may arise. In the long run, I do hope that I become a real woman of content, taking life as it is without any opulent aspirations and last, but never the least, having the utmost respect for my husband, “Rajnikania Sarwono. A Javanese wedding depends on the custom and social standing of the couple. For Kania and Rafil the whole wedding ceremony took three days to complete. That included the Pengajian - an Islamic custom, Siraman – showering of the bride and groom with gifts, Midodareni - the last dinner of the bride-to-be with her family, Akad Nikah - a ritual of exchanging wedding
vows with rings and finally the ‘Reception’ on the last day. The actual ceremony or Akad Nikah had to be done very meticulously. This was the most time consuming part of the wedding day, where even the process of getting dressed as well as the hair-andmake-up are just a small part of the series of Javanese rituals that had to be followed. This alone took about ten hours to complete. The next day, the newly weds had their reception, which was much more relaxed and went on for many hours. “My wedding day was an extremely hectic day and yet, very exciting. It was nerve wrecking to be the centre of everyone’s attention. Honestly, I felt quite shy, as all eyes were on us from the beginning up till the end,” Kania remembers. Although their cultural background are slightly different with Kania’s parents being Javanese and her growing up in a very Javanese household, whereas her husband comes from a half-javanese and half-makassar family. “But I don’t think that I’m married into a new culture. We’re both Indonesians, both of us are very fond of each of our families and growing up with similar cultures,” she concludes.
“In between courses, it is very nice for the bride and groom to visit each table informally” —Jennie Hallam-peel