A Cer­e­mo­nial Con­ces­sion

Indonesia Tatler Weddings - - CELEBRATIONS -

A tra­di­tional Ja­vanese wed­ding is a con­ces­sion of cer­e­monies, each filled with mean­ing and sig­nif­i­cance that could never be summed up by just two words: “I feel blessed of where I am to­day.

But most im­por­tantly, I em­brace and ac­cept ‘mar­riage’ as my next step in life, re­gard­less of the dif­fer­ent chal­lenges that may arise. In the long run, I do hope that I be­come a real woman of con­tent, tak­ing life as it is with­out any op­u­lent as­pi­ra­tions and last, but never the least, hav­ing the ut­most re­spect for my hus­band, “Ra­jnika­nia Sar­wono. A Ja­vanese wed­ding de­pends on the cus­tom and so­cial stand­ing of the cou­ple. For Ka­nia and Rafil the whole wed­ding cer­e­mony took three days to com­plete. That in­cluded the Pen­ga­jian - an Is­lamic cus­tom, Si­ra­man – show­er­ing of the bride and groom with gifts, Mi­do­dareni - the last din­ner of the bride-to-be with her fam­ily, Akad Nikah - a rit­ual of ex­chang­ing wed­ding

vows with rings and fi­nally the ‘Re­cep­tion’ on the last day. The ac­tual cer­e­mony or Akad Nikah had to be done very metic­u­lously. This was the most time con­sum­ing part of the wed­ding day, where even the process of get­ting dressed as well as the hair-and­make-up are just a small part of the se­ries of Ja­vanese rit­u­als that had to be fol­lowed. This alone took about ten hours to com­plete. The next day, the newly weds had their re­cep­tion, which was much more re­laxed and went on for many hours. “My wed­ding day was an ex­tremely hec­tic day and yet, very ex­cit­ing. It was nerve wreck­ing to be the cen­tre of ev­ery­one’s at­ten­tion. Hon­estly, I felt quite shy, as all eyes were on us from the be­gin­ning up till the end,” Ka­nia re­mem­bers. Although their cul­tural back­ground are slightly dif­fer­ent with Ka­nia’s par­ents be­ing Ja­vanese and her grow­ing up in a very Ja­vanese house­hold, whereas her hus­band comes from a half-ja­vanese and half-makas­sar fam­ily. “But I don’t think that I’m mar­ried into a new cul­ture. We’re both In­done­sians, both of us are very fond of each of our fam­i­lies and grow­ing up with sim­i­lar cul­tures,” she con­cludes.

“In be­tween cour­ses, it is very nice for the bride and groom to visit each ta­ble in­for­mally” —Jen­nie Hal­lam-peel

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