How To Be A Better Partner
It can be quite difficult to find the right person who makes you tick. If you have found one, then consider yourself a very lucky person. If you have ever been in a relationship, you know that it takes a great effort to maintain it so it stays healthy and
If your relationship is showing signs of wear and tear, perhaps you’ve forgotten the simplest things we take for granted or grown lazy at making things work. This year, resolve to be the perfect partner and put back the spark in your relationship. After all, it isn’t easy to find that special someone whom you can connect with, or can love you the way you are.
Respect your partner. It is very easy to take someone for granted. Do not make the mistake of thinking that your needs are the only ones that count. You need to always think of your partner’s needs too. Sometimes, when we think that we have a good partner, we tend to take the relationship for granted. We feel secure in the relationship, so secure that we often mistreat our partner. We often think of only ourselves because we think that our partner will never leave us. Do not make that mistake! Treasure your partner and never take him/her for granted. Treat your partner the way you wish to be treated yourself.
Always be there for your partner. Friends come and go, but a true partner stays forever. Whenever your partner is in trouble or feeling sad or desperate, you need to always be there for them. Always provide your partner with love and support in everything that they do and in every situation. Some people often distance themselves from their partner when the partner is in despair, not because they do not care but because they do not know how to act or what to say. Do not do that. That is the time when your partner needs you the most! If you do not how to act, just stay nearby and stay quiet. If you do not know what to say, you do not have to say anything. Your presence will say it all. A simple hug or a rub on the shoulder can communicate a thousand words.
Never disparage yourself. When things go wrong, take responsibility, but don’t disparage yourself. Whenever you start thinking that you aren’t good enough for your partner, the likelihood is that you won’t be. Nobody is perfect, neither you nor your partner. Do not ever think that you are unworthy. You need to have self-respect. If you want others to respect you, you have to respect yourself first.
Be romantic. A lack of romance is the first indication that a relationship is beginning to sour. It is very easy for people to get preoccupied with their routines and start neglecting the relationship. A relationship has to be constantly worked on and being romantic is a must. It does not have to be something extravagant – small things can mean just as much. It is as simple as saying “I love you” each day to your partner.
Communicate. Communication is the key to a successful relationship. Unless your partner is a mind reader, you have to tell your partner what you want and wish for. Communication involves talking and listening. Not only do you have to learn to talk to your partner; you also need to be a good listener. How often do you really listen to your partner? How many times do we allow our mind to drift off when our partner is talking to us? It takes practice to be a good listener, but by being a good listener, we can avoid any misunderstandings and missed instructions. Listening to your partner is showing them that you care about their thoughts and feelings.
Be honest. Nothing good ever comes from lies. What can you expect from a relationship based on lies? One day the lies will come back and hurt you. It is human to err and everyone makes mistakes in life. You do not have to lie to cover up a mistake. If you have made a mistake, it is better to tell your partner the truth before your partner finds out about it from someone else. There are gentle ways of delivering the truth; choose your words carefully. If your partner loves you then he/she will forgive you.
Never make promises that you cannot keep. If you say that you are going to do something, do it. Only say what you mean and mean what you say. Never make promises only to make your partner happy, especially if, at the end of the day, you cannot keep them. Trust is very important in a relationship. If you keep on making promises that you cannot keep, how can you expect your partner to rely on you?
Do not do things just to keep your partner happy and do not ask your partner to do things you know they don’t want to do. Have you ever done something for your partner that you really did not want to? You may have niggled him into going for a movie when he wants to spend a night out with the boys, or he may have dragged you along for a football game when all you wanted to do was stay in. Give in sometimes, but not all the time when it can lead to pent-up resentment that can blow up with time. Instead of dragging your feet at doing something you don’t want to, and secretly resenting your partner for it, simply explain to him/her your feelings and try to find another solution. Similarly, do not ask your partner to do things that you know they’d rather not. Respect each other’s wishes and agree to disagree. Being vocal with your own opinions and taking a stand does not mean you love your partner less. Similarly, if your partner doesn’t want to do something you want to, it doesn’t mean he doesn’t love you enough. Allowing yourselves to have separate interests is healthy for the relationship.
Like many good things in life, it takes an effort to maintain or begin a healthy relationship. Work toward the changes you want to see occur in your relationship. Be a better person and be a better partner.
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