How To Be A Bet­ter Part­ner

It can be quite dif­fi­cult to find the right per­son who makes you tick. If you have found one, then con­sider yourself a very lucky per­son. If you have ever been in a re­la­tion­ship, you know that it takes a great ef­fort to main­tain it so it stays healthy and

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If your re­la­tion­ship is show­ing signs of wear and tear, per­haps you’ve for­got­ten the sim­plest things we take for granted or grown lazy at mak­ing things work. This year, re­solve to be the per­fect part­ner and put back the spark in your re­la­tion­ship. Af­ter all, it isn’t easy to find that spe­cial some­one whom you can con­nect with, or can love you the way you are.

Re­spect your part­ner. It is very easy to take some­one for granted. Do not make the mis­take of think­ing that your needs are the only ones that count. You need to al­ways think of your part­ner’s needs too. Some­times, when we think that we have a good part­ner, we tend to take the re­la­tion­ship for granted. We feel se­cure in the re­la­tion­ship, so se­cure that we of­ten mis­treat our part­ner. We of­ten think of only our­selves be­cause we think that our part­ner will never leave us. Do not make that mis­take! Trea­sure your part­ner and never take him/her for granted. Treat your part­ner the way you wish to be treated yourself.

Al­ways be there for your part­ner. Friends come and go, but a true part­ner stays for­ever. When­ever your part­ner is in trou­ble or feel­ing sad or des­per­ate, you need to al­ways be there for them. Al­ways pro­vide your part­ner with love and sup­port in ev­ery­thing that they do and in ev­ery sit­u­a­tion. Some people of­ten dis­tance them­selves from their part­ner when the part­ner is in de­spair, not be­cause they do not care but be­cause they do not know how to act or what to say. Do not do that. That is the time when your part­ner needs you the most! If you do not how to act, just stay nearby and stay quiet. If you do not know what to say, you do not have to say any­thing. Your pres­ence will say it all. A sim­ple hug or a rub on the shoul­der can com­mu­ni­cate a thou­sand words.

Never dis­par­age yourself. When things go wrong, take re­spon­si­bil­ity, but don’t dis­par­age yourself. When­ever you start think­ing that you aren’t good enough for your part­ner, the like­li­hood is that you won’t be. No­body is per­fect, nei­ther you nor your part­ner. Do not ever think that you are un­wor­thy. You need to have self-re­spect. If you want oth­ers to re­spect you, you have to re­spect yourself first.

Be ro­man­tic. A lack of ro­mance is the first in­di­ca­tion that a re­la­tion­ship is be­gin­ning to sour. It is very easy for people to get pre­oc­cu­pied with their rou­tines and start ne­glect­ing the re­la­tion­ship. A re­la­tion­ship has to be con­stantly worked on and be­ing ro­man­tic is a must. It does not have to be some­thing ex­trav­a­gant – small things can mean just as much. It is as sim­ple as say­ing “I love you” each day to your part­ner.

Com­mu­ni­cate. Com­mu­ni­ca­tion is the key to a suc­cess­ful re­la­tion­ship. Un­less your part­ner is a mind reader, you have to tell your part­ner what you want and wish for. Com­mu­ni­ca­tion in­volves talk­ing and lis­ten­ing. Not only do you have to learn to talk to your part­ner; you also need to be a good lis­tener. How of­ten do you re­ally lis­ten to your part­ner? How many times do we al­low our mind to drift off when our part­ner is talk­ing to us? It takes prac­tice to be a good lis­tener, but by be­ing a good lis­tener, we can avoid any mis­un­der­stand­ings and missed in­struc­tions. Lis­ten­ing to your part­ner is show­ing them that you care about their thoughts and feel­ings.

Be hon­est. Noth­ing good ever comes from lies. What can you ex­pect from a re­la­tion­ship based on lies? One day the lies will come back and hurt you. It is hu­man to err and ev­ery­one makes mis­takes in life. You do not have to lie to cover up a mis­take. If you have made a mis­take, it is bet­ter to tell your part­ner the truth be­fore your part­ner finds out about it from some­one else. There are gen­tle ways of de­liv­er­ing the truth; choose your words care­fully. If your part­ner loves you then he/she will for­give you.

Never make prom­ises that you can­not keep. If you say that you are go­ing to do some­thing, do it. Only say what you mean and mean what you say. Never make prom­ises only to make your part­ner happy, es­pe­cially if, at the end of the day, you can­not keep them. Trust is very im­por­tant in a re­la­tion­ship. If you keep on mak­ing prom­ises that you can­not keep, how can you ex­pect your part­ner to rely on you?

Do not do things just to keep your part­ner happy and do not ask your part­ner to do things you know they don’t want to do. Have you ever done some­thing for your part­ner that you re­ally did not want to? You may have nig­gled him into go­ing for a movie when he wants to spend a night out with the boys, or he may have dragged you along for a foot­ball game when all you wanted to do was stay in. Give in some­times, but not all the time when it can lead to pent-up re­sent­ment that can blow up with time. In­stead of drag­ging your feet at do­ing some­thing you don’t want to, and se­cretly re­sent­ing your part­ner for it, sim­ply ex­plain to him/her your feel­ings and try to find an­other so­lu­tion. Sim­i­larly, do not ask your part­ner to do things that you know they’d rather not. Re­spect each other’s wishes and agree to dis­agree. Be­ing vo­cal with your own opin­ions and tak­ing a stand does not mean you love your part­ner less. Sim­i­larly, if your part­ner doesn’t want to do some­thing you want to, it doesn’t mean he doesn’t love you enough. Al­low­ing your­selves to have sep­a­rate in­ter­ests is healthy for the re­la­tion­ship.

Like many good things in life, it takes an ef­fort to main­tain or be­gin a healthy re­la­tion­ship. Work to­ward the changes you want to see oc­cur in your re­la­tion­ship. Be a bet­ter per­son and be a bet­ter part­ner.

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