How to Choose a Wed­ding Cel­e­brant

Let’s be hon­est: a cel­e­brant can make or break your wed­ding cer­e­mony. If he or she is far too se­ri­ous, what should be the hap­pi­est day of your life could be­come the most bor­ing.

Maxx-brides - - FEATURE - Text by Stephen James Lunn

On the other hand, a cel­e­brant who is too in­ex­pe­ri­enced or doesn’t take the cer­e­mony with enough grav­ity could re­sult in many eye­rolling, em­bar­rass­ing mo­ments. When choos­ing a wed­ding cel­e­brant, the key ques­tion to ask your­self is, “Who is my guest?” this is a once in a life time event, you want your guests - your ‘tar­get’ - to have a great time at your wed­ding cer­e­mony. For in­stance, If the pri­mary de­mo­graphic of your wed­ding guests con­sists of young, lively friends (say, in a des­ti­na­tion wed­ding on an is­land), you’ll want to choose a con­tem­po­rary cel­e­brant that has a per­son­al­ity that is light-hearted, keeps the cer­e­mony short, and is a peo­pleper­son. In this sit­u­a­tion, be­ing joy­ful and up­beat is key, so your guests are smil­ing and cheer­ing with you as you share the best mo­ment of your life with them. How­ever, you may be invit­ing wed­ding guests that are largely from a back­ground that ex­pects a wed­ding cer­e­mony to be litur­gi­cal and dig­ni­fied. Per­haps your un­cles and aunts that come from a more tra­di­tional cul­ture are your guests of hon­our, and you want a cer­e­mony that re­spects their style and their se­nior­ity. Then it’s likely you’ll want to choose a tra­di­tional cel­e­brant that is more somber and cal­cu­lated. In this case, look for a cel­e­brant that has wis­dom and ex­pe­ri­ence, and can do the bless­ing in a se­ri­ous tone that is fit­ting for the most sa­cred day of your life. Most likely, though, you’ll be deal­ing with a blended au­di­ence, that is made up of friends and fam­ily that come from both tra­di­tional and con­tem­po­rary cul­tures. Since you are seek­ing to please both ends of this spec­trum, here is a sim­ple ‘cel­e­brant hack’: their cloth­ing. It is true that a per­son’s at­tire speaks on their be­half. There­fore, if your con­tem­po­rary cel­e­brant is young, lively, and en­er­getic, have him dress in a very for­mal tuxedo, or re­li­gious robes, to in­clude your tra­di­tional guests. Or, if your tra­di­tional cel­e­brant is older, wise, and se­ri­ous, ask him to ‘dress down’ with an open col­lar, to in­clude your con­tem­po­rary guests. Re­mem­ber: It’s your wed­ding day, and you want to savour ev­ery mo­ment of it. So, do the prep work be­fore­hand, and find the right cel­e­brant that gives you con­fi­dence.

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