Singleton in San Francisco
Single and ready to mingle? San Francisco is THE city for you. San Francisco has more to offer other than the Golden Gate; the city’s solo scene has earned it the title No. 1 U.S. city for singles, according to Forbes.com.
Google is your best friend when it comes to finding fellow singles. Type the words “singles and San Francisco” and a long list of popular dating sites will appear. It’s Just Lunch offers singles a chance to indulge in some of the best restaurants in San Francisco, which boasts a rich array of gastronomical influences. For a listing of the best restaurants and the culinary fare they offer, check Michelin Guide and Zagat reviews. Dining in groups is even better because they lessen the pressure among couples meeting for the first time. Let’s face it: People have a common fear of strangers. However, when dating with another couple, then one is likely to feel more at ease and there won’t be awkward and dreaded dead air. So perhaps a double-date might work for starters. One thing to remember when dining is to eat. Women seem to lose their appetite when dating because they dread weight gain. This can be counterproductive because men want to know that you are enjoying yourself and the food when the two of you are out on a dinner date. He’s also trying to assess, are you being too self-conscious? Do you have food issues? If dining makes you feel guilty, sign up for an activity-based dating to burn those calories. While opposites attract, research says shared interests ranks third among the most important criteria for daters at 65 per cent. Personality was the most important criteria at 84 per cent, followed by brains at 69 per cent. Surprisingly, looks ranks last at 60 per cent. If outdoors is your thing, you are bound to meet likeminded, active and outdoorsy individuals in San Francisco. Rock climbing in Yosemite, skiing at Lake Tahoe, hiking in Redwoods and walking the length of the Golden Gate Bridge (mine took for 23 minutes with stopovers for photo shoots!) will work wonders for singletons. According to one study, men and women who met on a bridge high over rushing water rated each other as more attractive than those they met elsewhere. The Golden Gate Bridge stands 746 feet above water. Thanks to vertigo and adrenaline rush, you now look prettier! If you get broken-hearted though, don’t jump. Emergency phones and crisis counselling are available at the Golden Gate Bridge with the warning: “There is hope. Make the call. The consequences of jumping from this bridge are fatal and tragic.” If walking is too strenuous for you, then you have San Francisco to thank for because the city provides a myriad of other options. Take the elevator at the Westin St. Francis San Francisco on Union Square (you don’t have to be a guest; just go inside and act like one) to the top floor for scenic views of the city. Alternatively, you can dine at restaurants or lounges situated atop San Francisco’s tall buildings. Dining under a starry, starry night, you’ll score high on attraction and romance! Consider carefully the meeting place when going on a date with someone you haven’t met. People post a photo from their college days on dating sites. By the time you meet him/her, it would be too late to react. You’d be so shocked to find out it was taken two decades ago! Crowded and central Union Square seems like a “safe” place. Due to its proximity to public transportation, entertainment centres and dining establishments, couples could decide where to go next or what to do depending, of course, on how attracted they are to each other. It would be safe to meet up for coffee because you don’t have to spend too much time finishing a meal. It gives you just the right amount of time to assess whether your date is worth getting to know more or not. If you decide to get to know your date better, take it a notch higher. Get more intimate at a dancing class or dance your night away at a salsa club. Dance with your partner, get your eyes locked and your hands all over each other. Regardless
of your dance preference, you’ll find you and your date moving towards a real connection because it forces you to get your bodies in synch and mirror each other’s movements – a proven tactic for forging a bond. Learning a new skill together also creates a bond. Plus, a common interest makes it easy to strike up conversations. If you want to meet someone without having to take up a class, The Marina Safeway, also referred to as Dateway, has been reputed as a single’s meeting place for the past 30 years. The crowd is predominantly in their 20s and early-30s. Produce is the favoured meeting section. Another supermarket that is super-popular among singles is the Whole Foods Market. Its prepared foods section is popular with singles during lunch. Speaking of Marina, this neighbourhood has a reputation. It is home to the rich, making it among the 15 percent highest income neighbourhoods in America. According to Urban dictionary, “The San Francisco neighbourhood has its own breed of female, known as the Marina Girl, as satirized in the Cameron Diaz film The Sweetest Thing. The stereotypical Marina Girl parties hard, shops high-end fashions while never being employed in any tangible profession, other than receptionist, office manager, or booth babe. The Marina Girl maintains her high quality of life through a series of arrangements with older gentlemen. In recent years on weekends, Marina Girls tend to gravitate around the area dubbed by Herb Caen as the “Bermuda Triangle”: a collection of bars and restaurants on the corner of Fillmore and Greenwich streets. During the week, the Marina Girl can be found looking for companionship at the popular Marina Safeway. When a Marina Girl turns 30, she is no longer known as a Marina Girl but a “cougar”. Despite all the suggestions on where to meet a single guy or girl, the key to meeting someone is to create opportunities where the unexpected can happen. If you ask any committed couple where they met, they will tell you that serendipity was involved. San Francisco is so diverse – from arts to music, to festivals, destinations and architecture. Likewise, its residents represent a highly diverse population. Singles looking for love are bound to find what they are looking for in San Francisco.