Sin­gle­ton in San Francisco

Sin­gle and ready to min­gle? San Francisco is THE city for you. San Francisco has more to of­fer other than the Golden Gate; the city’s solo scene has earned it the ti­tle No. 1 U.S. city for sin­gles, ac­cord­ing to

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Google is your best friend when it comes to find­ing fel­low sin­gles. Type the words “sin­gles and San Francisco” and a long list of popular dat­ing sites will ap­pear. It’s Just Lunch of­fers sin­gles a chance to in­dulge in some of the best restau­rants in San Francisco, which boasts a rich ar­ray of gas­tro­nom­i­cal in­flu­ences. For a list­ing of the best restau­rants and the culi­nary fare they of­fer, check Miche­lin Guide and Za­gat reviews. Din­ing in groups is even bet­ter be­cause they lessen the pres­sure among cou­ples meet­ing for the first time. Let’s face it: Peo­ple have a common fear of strangers. How­ever, when dat­ing with another cou­ple, then one is likely to feel more at ease and there won’t be awk­ward and dreaded dead air. So per­haps a dou­ble-date might work for starters. One thing to re­mem­ber when din­ing is to eat. Women seem to lose their ap­petite when dat­ing be­cause they dread weight gain. This can be coun­ter­pro­duc­tive be­cause men want to know that you are en­joy­ing your­self and the food when the two of you are out on a din­ner date. He’s also try­ing to as­sess, are you be­ing too self-con­scious? Do you have food is­sues? If din­ing makes you feel guilty, sign up for an ac­tiv­ity-based dat­ing to burn those calo­ries. While op­po­sites at­tract, re­search says shared in­ter­ests ranks third among the most im­por­tant cri­te­ria for daters at 65 per cent. Per­son­al­ity was the most im­por­tant cri­te­ria at 84 per cent, fol­lowed by brains at 69 per cent. Sur­pris­ingly, looks ranks last at 60 per cent. If out­doors is your thing, you are bound to meet like­minded, ac­tive and out­doorsy in­di­vid­u­als in San Francisco. Rock climb­ing in Yosemite, ski­ing at Lake Ta­hoe, hik­ing in Red­woods and walk­ing the length of the Golden Gate Bridge (mine took for 23 min­utes with stopovers for photo shoots!) will work won­ders for sin­gle­tons. Ac­cord­ing to one study, men and women who met on a bridge high over rush­ing wa­ter rated each other as more at­trac­tive than those they met else­where. The Golden Gate Bridge stands 746 feet above wa­ter. Thanks to ver­tigo and adren­a­line rush, you now look pret­tier! If you get bro­ken-hearted though, don’t jump. Emer­gency phones and cri­sis coun­selling are avail­able at the Golden Gate Bridge with the warn­ing: “There is hope. Make the call. The con­se­quences of jumping from this bridge are fa­tal and tragic.” If walk­ing is too stren­u­ous for you, then you have San Francisco to thank for be­cause the city pro­vides a myr­iad of other op­tions. Take the el­e­va­tor at the Westin St. Fran­cis San Francisco on Union Square (you don’t have to be a guest; just go inside and act like one) to the top floor for scenic views of the city. Al­ter­na­tively, you can dine at restau­rants or lounges sit­u­ated atop San Francisco’s tall build­ings. Din­ing un­der a starry, starry night, you’ll score high on at­trac­tion and ro­mance! Con­sider care­fully the meet­ing place when go­ing on a date with some­one you haven’t met. Peo­ple post a photo from their col­lege days on dat­ing sites. By the time you meet him/her, it would be too late to re­act. You’d be so shocked to find out it was taken two decades ago! Crowded and cen­tral Union Square seems like a “safe” place. Due to its prox­im­ity to pub­lic trans­porta­tion, en­ter­tain­ment cen­tres and din­ing es­tab­lish­ments, cou­ples could de­cide where to go next or what to do de­pend­ing, of course, on how at­tracted they are to each other. It would be safe to meet up for cof­fee be­cause you don’t have to spend too much time fin­ish­ing a meal. It gives you just the right amount of time to as­sess whether your date is worth get­ting to know more or not. If you de­cide to get to know your date bet­ter, take it a notch higher. Get more in­ti­mate at a danc­ing class or dance your night away at a salsa club. Dance with your part­ner, get your eyes locked and your hands all over each other. Re­gard­less

of your dance pref­er­ence, you’ll find you and your date mov­ing to­wards a real con­nec­tion be­cause it forces you to get your bod­ies in synch and mir­ror each other’s move­ments – a proven tac­tic for forg­ing a bond. Learn­ing a new skill to­gether also cre­ates a bond. Plus, a common in­ter­est makes it easy to strike up con­ver­sa­tions. If you want to meet some­one with­out hav­ing to take up a class, The Ma­rina Safe­way, also re­ferred to as Date­way, has been re­puted as a sin­gle’s meet­ing place for the past 30 years. The crowd is pre­dom­i­nantly in their 20s and early-30s. Pro­duce is the favoured meet­ing sec­tion. Another su­per­mar­ket that is su­per-popular among sin­gles is the Whole Foods Mar­ket. Its pre­pared foods sec­tion is popular with sin­gles dur­ing lunch. Speak­ing of Ma­rina, this neigh­bour­hood has a rep­u­ta­tion. It is home to the rich, mak­ing it among the 15 per­cent high­est in­come neigh­bour­hoods in Amer­ica. Ac­cord­ing to Ur­ban dic­tio­nary, “The San Francisco neigh­bour­hood has its own breed of fe­male, known as the Ma­rina Girl, as sat­i­rized in the Cameron Diaz film The Sweet­est Thing. The stereo­typ­i­cal Ma­rina Girl par­ties hard, shops high-end fash­ions while never be­ing em­ployed in any tan­gi­ble pro­fes­sion, other than re­cep­tion­ist, of­fice man­ager, or booth babe. The Ma­rina Girl main­tains her high qual­ity of life through a se­ries of ar­range­ments with older gen­tle­men. In re­cent years on week­ends, Ma­rina Girls tend to grav­i­tate around the area dubbed by Herb Caen as the “Ber­muda Tri­an­gle”: a col­lec­tion of bars and restau­rants on the cor­ner of Fill­more and Green­wich streets. Dur­ing the week, the Ma­rina Girl can be found look­ing for com­pan­ion­ship at the popular Ma­rina Safe­way. When a Ma­rina Girl turns 30, she is no longer known as a Ma­rina Girl but a “cougar”. De­spite all the sug­ges­tions on where to meet a sin­gle guy or girl, the key to meet­ing some­one is to cre­ate op­por­tu­ni­ties where the un­ex­pected can hap­pen. If you ask any com­mit­ted cou­ple where they met, they will tell you that serendip­ity was in­volved. San Francisco is so di­verse – from arts to mu­sic, to fes­ti­vals, des­ti­na­tions and ar­chi­tec­ture. Like­wise, its res­i­dents rep­re­sent a highly di­verse pop­u­la­tion. Sin­gles look­ing for love are bound to find what they are look­ing for in San Francisco.

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