Will a relationship ruin our friendship?
I have been good friends with a girl for the past five years. We met at university but we both dated other people. Now we live and work in the same city and have lots of friends in common. I get the impression that she would like to have a relationship with me, and one of her friends has confirmed this. She is a lovely person – incredibly attractive, intelligent, great fun and sexy, too. I value her and I’m worried that if she did become my girlfriend and we broke up, we would lose our special friendship. When you look back on life, the things you regret the most are the things you haven’t done, rather than the things that you have. If you are attracted to her and she feels the same way, do you want to miss out on the opportunity to have a lovely relationship? Some start with instant sexual attraction, but often the relationships that are more likely to endure begin when you are great friends – as well as being attracted to each other. The friendship helps you to survive the inevitable ups and downs of a relationship. Of course, there is always a risk. When you fall in love, you become vulnerable, but she might turn out to be the girl who you want to spend the rest of your life with. Imagine how you would feel if she started going out with someone else and you realised – too late – what you were missing.