My partner’s ex aims to win him back

I recently had a massive row with my partner of five years and we split up. He immediately started going out with another woman, who is manipulative and only seems to be interested in naming-and-shaming people on Facebook and taking endless selfies – she is 46! Our private life has been plastered all over social media. My ex now wants me back and this woman has asked if she can come to my house to talk it through. I have told him that if we do get back together, he has to cut off all contact with her. However, I think she’s determined to keep him no matter what. I expect that the reason your partner initially thought this woman was so wonderful was because he met her on the rebound from your argument. However, it now sounds as if he is having second thoughts about her as he wants you back – perhaps not surprisingly given how you describe her. I don’t think it is a good idea to meet her, and certainly not at your house. I suspect she only wants to tell you how wonderful their relationship was, how great he is in bed and how he does not love you, which may not be true but which would be very hurtful. If you and your partner do want to stay together and you still love each other, it sounds as if your relationship needs some work. I suggest contacting the Family Therapy Association of Ireland (familytherapyireland.com) for counselling together to help you handle arguments better and decide what to do.