Irish Daily Mirror - - DEARCOLEEN -

Dear Coleen

I’m sick of be­ing sin­gle. All my fam­ily and a cou­ple of my mates have part­ners, but I don’t. I feel lonely, but don’t know where I’m go­ing wrong. I go out in town. I dress up and put on make-up to look nice – well, I try to look nice – but no one ever seems to no­tice. Any ideas?

Coleen says

I’m sure you do look very nice, but it’s not just about that. You might be sit­ting in a bar with your friends look­ing ab­so­lutely lovely, but if you’re not talk­ing to any­one and seem un­ap­proach­able, then peo­ple won’t talk to you. Stop go­ing out look­ing for it and just have fun with your mates be­cause the most at­trac­tive thing of all is some­one who is con­fi­dent in them­selves. The truth is, you’ll prob­a­bly get­ting chat­ting to some great guy in Tesco or Star­bucks on a day you’re look­ing ab­so­lutely rub­bish and have made no ef­fort at all. Also, you shouldn’t be com­par­ing your­self to oth­ers – that just feeds in­se­cu­rity. Re­mem­ber peo­ple tend to show their best selves, es­pe­cially on so­cial me­dia, so you’re not get­ting the real story – ev­ery­one has their problems and hang ups. And if only a cou­ple of your friends have part­ners, then that means the rest are sin­gle like you, so go out with them and en­joy your­self.

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