Can’t stop thinking of my ex while hubby’s abroad
I was in a serious relationship with a guy in high school for about two years. We split up once for about a week, but then got back together. We were in love and had even talked about getting married some day.
However, I began to find out that lots of my friends and also family didn’t really like this guy, so we broke up in our final year of school. We agreed to date other people to see if we really were meant for each other or if there was someone else out there.
I started seeing someone new in March 2016 and he is my now husband. We only dated for a short time before he had to go off to start his training with the army. We got married in February this year, so we hadn’t even known each other 12 months. We were only 19 at the time.
Then my husband got sent overseas for a year with his job and I’m now realising that maybe we did things way too fast. In the meantime, my ex and I have always checked in with each other to see how things are going, but I don’t think I ever really stopped loving him.
I don’t know if these feeling are purely because my husband is not back until February, and I want companionship. I love him, but there is part of me that just wants to be with my ex.
You’ve done everything too fast. It’s got to be hard to think of yourself in a relationship with someone who immediately goes away for a year.
You are also still so young, so you have to be careful that you’re not simply romanticising your ex and those carefree days in high school.
I think you should wait until your husband is home before doing anything.
You seem to have a made a lot of rash decisions, so make this one much more considered and give it some time. You’re not a high school girl any more – you’re married and you owe it to your partner to see what things are like when he’s back.
You might find it rekindles the romance but, if it doesn’t, then at least you can talk to him face to face to explain how you feel.
And, in the meantime, don’t start anything with your ex – it’s not fair on your husband and it’ll only confuse you even more.
Also, have a think why it is all your friends and family don’t like your ex. I realise when you’re young, that kind of opposition can make you more defiant, but they might have really good reasons.
We married then he went off for a year in the army