WHY IT WORKS
Cultural differences aside, your internal monologues and the way you deal with feelings and emotional experiences can very much be changed, regardless of where in the world you live. Here’s a Swedish psychologist’s take on a lagom approach to mental wellbeing. Why lagom? “Simply speaking, affect theory, which describes the organisation of emotions and experienced feelings, suggests we have a basic set of emotional states that are universal. These are meant to help us navigate through life — like a compass of sorts. When we learn, depending on our experiences, either to suppress or to overreact to our own emotions, that compass doesn’t work very well. “We need to know how we feel about certain things to make sound decisions, yet without allowing the feelings to take over completely. “Being in touch with your feelings in a lagom way is thought to be linked to good mental health and making sound decisions. That’s the goal of many therapies, to find the right balance — to get better at identifying emotions you’ve perhaps learned to suppress and learn to manage and harbour feelings if you have a tendency to overreact.”
Erika Stanley is a psychologist based in Stockholm.