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Irish Independent - Health & Living - - MIND YOURSELF -

FIGHT FAIR

In a sit­u­a­tion of con­flict, talk about ‘what I feel’ rather than ‘what you did’. Avoid name-call­ing, swear­ing, blam­ing, stonewalling, or re­vis­it­ing past fights. Avoid at­tack­ing, de­fen­sive­ness, stonewalling, or crit­i­cism.

Keep the dis­cus­sion to the sin­gle is­sue at hand. This makes it safer to deal with con­flict — if you bring up past fights, says Ul­brick, the ar­gu­ment will go around in cir­cles.

“Mind­ful­ness gives you more choice. It gives you the choice to take a breath, to pause and to take a more con­sid­ered ap­proach to con­flict.”

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