LISTEN, LISTEN, LISTEN
“Listen for the meaning underneath,” when you are speaking with somebody, Ulbrick counsels. “Look deeply,” she advises.
Be present to other people. “Often we don’t listen enough to other people — maybe we’re listening to the words, but not to the message. Maybe we’re already thinking about how we’re going to respond, defend yourself and not listening — at the heart of a lot of relationship problems is that we are all longing for someone to hear us.”