IRISH INDEPENDENT There’s a saying that goes: to avoid criticism, do nothing, say nothing and be nothing. The idea being that no matter what you do, somebody is going to find fault with it, and if you want to do anything in life you’re going to have to find a way to deal with criticism. But it’s hard, isn’t it? Criticism has always stung me. I am a natural people pleaser. I want to keep people happy and for everyone to like me all the time. I know that this is not realistic. So how do I learn to handle criticism?
Life coach Paul McGee shares these tips for 2 September 2017 dealing with critics: First, ask what were the other person’s motives for criticising me? Were they to make themselves look good or just expressing an opinion from a differing point of view? If so, let it wash right off you.
Secondly what part of the criticism (if any) could I agree with and possibly learn from? It’s not easy to take criticism on board but can be helpful.
Just make sure you’re taking it from someone whose motives are good.