IRISH INDEPENDENT Stephen Covey, the author of The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People wrote that: “We see the world, not as it is, but as we are or, as we are conditioned to see it.” By this he means that we tend to view people and events through the prism of our own experience and our own preconceived ideas of what will transpire.
Over the last couple of weeks, I’ve realised that the way I see the world is not really as it is at all — instead it is the result of old stories I’ve told myself time and time again about how things are, and how I am.
But things change and we change. What 16 September 2017 was true 10 years ago is no longer true now. Just because nobody asked me to dance at the school disco does not mean that nobody wants to dance with me now.
Just because people laughed at me before does not mean that they will laugh at me now. Just because someone once rejected an idea I put forward at a meeting does not mean that will happen every time that I speak up.
It’s time to drop the old stories and try to see the world as it really is — and as we really are.