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ver the baby. duce her at 38 one – Joshua eek early. ly: “When he chest, it was euphoric. The joy and delight of holding him was amazing.”
She pauses for a moment and then adds: “The doctor scanned me before delivering the second twin. We were told the baby wouldn’t look like a healthy baby as it had been some time since it died.”
The baby was named Grace. Kezia says: “It was so hard. I got very upset but a caring midwife told me to look at Joshua and focus on him. I had joy in my arms while grieving the loss of her.”
Grace was taken for tests but Family hug at funeral of Grace she was reunited with her parents for a precious cuddle.
Days later they had photos taken of her wrapped in a blanket with Joshua. “That was special,” says Chris. Joshua is now 14 months and the couple, both 37, say he is healing balm for the soul – and was particularly so in those early days. They had Joshua during a four-year spell in London before Chris & Kezia with beloved son Joshua
returning to New Zealand, where they grew up. They still have Grace’s ashes. Chris says: “We feel she is still with us.”
They also have four remaining IVF embryos. Kezia says: “We want more kids. And we will tell Joshua about Grace one day.
“I really hope that by sharing our story, people will find it easier to talk to someone. I hope Child of Mine will raise awareness and get people talking. It does help.”
Child of Mine is on Channel 4, 10pm, on Thursday Mums-to-be can reduce the risk of stillbirth by following sensible guidelines:
Go to all antenatal appointments Eat well, be active Stop smoking Don't drink alcohol Sleep on your side Tell your midwife if you use drugs Have the flu jab Avoid people who are ill Wash your hands Prepare and store food safely
Avoid some foods – see advice on nhs.uk
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