Sabrina Calder-Groves’ unswerving faith in prayer
COURTING IS an important activity, especially for Christian couples at the premarital stage. As Christians, it is expected that they live a life that is ‘good’ and ‘pleasing’ to God. This, therefore, brings about a Christian’s need to know the person whom they may end up marrying, and that is where courting comes in. Family & Religion reached out to Minister Andre Dixon from the Greater Highway Church of Christ Apostolic in Carterwood, Trelawny, who shared his thoughts on the topic. “During courting, one should look for qualities such as spirituality, commitment, sincerity, integrity and common sense. As a Christian, you can use these qualities to form the basis of what to look for in a partner. It will also indicate that you may have found someone to be your wife or husband, and who could also be your best friend,” he said. Minister Dixon was, however, keen to note that courting doesn’t always lead to marriage because there are qualities displayed by one party that isn’t SABRINA CALDER-GROVES says the best thing about her Christian journey is having a peace of mind, knowing that no matter how impossible a situation might seem, the Lord always takes her through it, a lesson she learnt the hard way.
“When I was about 13 years old, I went through a period of tremendous depression. I had low selfesteem because my father did not believe in me. He told me I was never going come to anything and he constantly reminded me how disappointed he was with me for not making it into a better high school,” she shared.
That episode led her into a state of depression where she attempted to take her life.
“I took about 30 tablets, and then I sat on the dining table waiting to die while going over the details of my suicide letter. When the pain started to get bad I went to my mom and told her that I was dying and she gave me some ginger/mint tea for the cramps and pain I was feeling” she told Family & Religion. necessarily what the other is looking for, so the expected level of compatibility may be missing.
He added that there aren’t s a specific time frame as to how soon after courting marriage should take place. “Everyone is different and God’s time is not our time. What is important is the amount of time they take to see the qualities in each other and how comfortable they are with each other.”
NOT A FORGOTTEN PRACTICE
Minister Dixon says he believes the male should always initiate the courting process, even though that is not always the case. “The man must be the one to take the first step because God made the woman for the man and you should go for what is yours. I don’t believe the lady should make such.
“Courting is not a forgotten practice, because people still engage in courting. But one of the issues is that young people in some of the churches are afraid to, or they are not allowed to court because the church doesn’t see it fit, hence they get married and no time was spent to observe the qualities of the person. This sometimes leads to broken marriages, severed family relationships, and sometimes persons even backsliding from church to go in search of what
they didn’t find
With tears in her eyes, Sabrina said she prayed for deliverance which came instantly: “I said to God, ‘Lord if you have a plan for my life, let me live after I drink this tea, and if not just let me die, and if my life will be like this forever, don’t let me live’. I drank one sip of the tea and I started to throw up, and every single pill I had taken came up, and after that all the stomach pain and cramps stopped immediately. In that one moment, because the Lord saved my life, I decided I was going to give my all to him.”
LIES AND DECEPTION
She, however, did not take the water baptism until three years later.
She now worships at the GimmeMe-Bit Seventh-Day Church of God in Clarendon.
Since she embraced Christ, she has had to deal with men initiating premarital sex, peer pressure at university, lies and deception, and the list goes on.
As soon as she overcame one obstacle life presented another, but with faith, she kept overcoming them. in the relationship,” he explained to Family & Religion.
He also noted that dating and courting are the same thing for Christians, but may be different for non-Christians. “Non-Christians date (and court) and sex is most times involved, but for Christians, it should be to the point that they take time to know each other.
“I personally don’t believe that it is wise to have parents involved in courting like that (on a supervisory level) because they will not reveal everything having their parents around. Christians should be able to trust themselves and apply 2 Corinthians 6: 14 to their lives: ‘Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? And what communion hath light with darkness?’,” he added. Sabrina said after applying to pursue a bachelor’s degree at the University of the West Indies (UWI), if it were not for fasting and prayer she would not have been accepted.
“I was not initially accepted by the university; however, knowing that a tertiary education was my only way out of poverty, I went on fasting all by myself at church one week before UWI’s school year was scheduled to start. I stayed there for the entire day, and while fasting, I poured out my heart to the Lord. At the end of the fast I felt peaceful and things finally fell into place: who could it be but God?
“I eventually got accepted and was able to start classes with a scholarship that I received from J. Wray & Nephew. Today, I am a third-year student at UWI with a GPA of 3.64 for last semester,” she proudly proclaimed. – S. S.
Sabrina Calder-Groves: The best thing about her Christian journey is having a peace of mind, knowing that no matter how impossible a situation might seem, the Lord always takes her through it