I have no na­ture for my hus­band

Jamaica Gleaner - - FAMILY & RELIGION -

Dear Joan, I HAVE been mar­ried for more than 20 years, and in the early years, I was very ex­cited about mak­ing love with my hus­band. I am now al­most 50 and I find that in the last two years, mak­ing love is like a chore.

It’s not that I love my hus­band any less – he is still my best friend, and I am very com­fort­able around him. I en­joy when we cud­dle and share small talk, but the minute he shows an in­ter­est in things get­ting in­ti­mate, I feel turned off.

The truth is, no mat­ter how I try, I just can’t get my­self into feel­ing any­thing. I don’t know what’s wrong with me. I am think­ing about go­ing to the doc­tor, but I am afraid as I don’t want to hear that some­thing is se­ri­ously wrong with me.

Some­times just to sat­isfy him, I pre­tend that I am into it, but it hurts as I am not re­ally moist the way I should be.

Joan, do you think some­thing is wrong with me?

K.M. Dear K.M., I am al­most cer­tain you are one of the many women who are now go­ing through menopause. One of its symp­toms is low sex­ual de­sire.

Even if you are still hav­ing your pe­riod, it ap­pears to me that pre­menopausal con­di­tions are now be­gin­ning to set in.

Don’t be afraid to have a talk with your doc­tor; he will ex­plain ev­ery­thing to you.

It would also help if you have a talk with your hus­band too. Let him know ex­actly

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