Dont ha­rass me about sex­ual ha­rass­ment

Jamaica Gleaner - - ARTS&EDUCATION -

FOR SOME rea­son, women won’t ac­cept that men are dif­fer­ent and seem intent, in the name of gen­der equal­ity, on emas­cu­lat­ing Ja­maican men un­til they re­sem­ble their av­er­age Amer­i­can coun­ter­part.

Today’s rant is prompted by that fe­male fic­tion of re­cent vin­tage called ‘sex­ual ha­rass­ment’. This lin­guis­tic para­dox has spread un­con­trol­lably un­til com­pa­nies now hire sex­ual-ha­rass­ment con­sul­tants and de­velop ‘sex­ual ha­rass­ment pro­to­cols’.

My fa­ther’s gen­er­a­tion be­lieved women should re­main in the kitchen, bare­foot and preg­nant. This chau­vin­is­tic ideal al­lowed those of us who be­lieved (and prac­tised) an al­ter­na­tive, more even-handed phi­los­o­phy to be rea­son­ably suc­cess­ful in the sex­ual games peo­ple play. You want to help to mind your fam­ily. You want to help your man fi­nan­cially But nowa­days it re­ally very hard To get a job as a girl in Trinidad. You look­ing out to find some­thing to do. You meet a boss man who prom­ise to help you But when the man let down the con­di­tion, Noth­ing else but hu­mil­i­a­tion. They want to see you whole anatomy. They want to see weh yu doc­tor never see.

They want to do weh yu hus­band never do

Still you ain’t know if th­ese scamps will hire you

As a young, im­pe­cu­nious lawyer, I mar­ried an in­ter­na­tional civil ser­vant who earned more than I in tax-free US dol­lars. The Old Ball and Chain re­ceived her fair share of invitations to job in­ter­views at male in­ter­view­ers’ apart­ments after dark. She re­jected all. At that in­ter­na­tional or­gan­i­sa­tion, an African sec­re­tary gen­eral in­formed her of her ex­tracur­ric­u­lar du­ties to him re­quired by the job. She po­litely de­clined. One In­dian su­per­vi­sor used to sum­mon her as “eeeh?” She qui­etly replied, “My name is Karen.” Well, if is all this hu­mil­i­a­tion To get a job th­ese days as a woman. Brother, they go keep they money I go keep my honey And die with my dig­nity! If she’d al­lowed th­ese un­com­fort­able de­mands and dis­re­spect­ful be­hav­iour to un­bal­ance her, we prob­a­bly wouldn’t own a home now. She paid the de­posit from her ‘prov­i­dent fund’ (forced sav­ings) at work and the clos­ing costs were bor­rowed (un­se­cured) from a friendly bank. It have a lot a women just like me who might be not so well off fi­nan­cially. You need a job and you re­ally need it bad.

A man de­cide to help, you must feel glad But, if you value your­self as a woman, You will de­mand re­spect from di vagabond.

Stand up to them and let them know the truth:

Is work you want, you ain’t no blink­ing pros­ti­tute.

You have a mole on you back they want to see;

They want to see if you have marks on yu belly.

They want to know how much man you had be­fore

And if you strong enough to take any more I have me pride and I have my am­bi­tion. I want to hold me head up high as a woman. So, brother, they go keep their money, I go keep my honey and die with my dig­nity!

When the Am­per­sand was born, Old BC de­cided she wouldn’t work any­more be­cause she wanted to bring up her own chil­dren. I wasn’t con­sulted. For many years, she was ridiculed by scorn­ful ca­reer women who made other choices, but, even­tu­ally, they’ve come around to ad­mir­ing her and her sem­i­nal con­tri­bu­tion to na­tion build­ing, namely the Com­puter Whiz, the Am­per­sand, and SputNick.

ACID TEST

A young lady re­cently on morn­ing TV call­ing her­self a sex­ual-ha­rass­ment con­sul­tant made the Olympic lin­guis­tic gymnastics team try­ing to ex­plain ex­am­ples of ‘sex­ual ha­rass­ment’. She con­ceded that com­pli­ments were per­mis­si­ble, de­pend­ing, she earnestly ad­vised, on “the to­tal­ity of the cir­cum­stances”. The acid test was whether the woman felt “un­com­fort­able”.

Well, blow me down (please) and kiss my run­gus kun­gus mi nun­gus! Here’s where I lose my last two fe­male read­ers. Testos­terone will al­ways en­sure most men are sex­ual ag­gres­sors. That’s God’s work, and woman won’t stop it, no mat­ter how many ‘new rules’ she passes.

Ev­ery man, some more skil­fully than oth­ers, has an un­con­di­tional right to beg women for sex. Since 30 per cent of hu­man life is spent at work, where else are you more likely to find a life (or ca­sual) part­ner? The flip side is, women have an equal right to refuse. Only where the man takes it fur­ther should he be ac­cused of ‘ha­rass­ment’. Some a dem done park up al­ready Yet they sit down wait­ing like mapipi. Us­ing the power of dey cash and po­si­tion

Wait­ing to abuse and ex­ploit any woman.

To get to work, you have to go to bed with he;

Be­come slave, sec­ond wife and deputy.

And as a next woman come on di line

He start to tell you you ain’t good, you can’t wine They want to see you in a fancy-fancy pose. They want to see how you look without you clothes. They want you cock up like a bloody ac­ro­bat. They wife at home They can’t ask she to do that

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