Tri­cia-Anne Mor­ris – all about em­pow­er­ing women

Jamaica Gleaner - - FAMILY & RELIGION - Ce­celia Liv­ingston Camp­bell Gleaner Writer fam­ilyan­dreli­gion @glean­erjm.com fam­ilyan­dreli­gion@glean­erjm.com

TRI­CIA-ANNE MOR­RIS is all fired up about ser­vice to God. She has many rea­sons to be to­tally de­voted as she has come a long way to be at the place she is at now.

A mem­ber of the Fel­low­ship Taber­na­cle, she coaches the Busi­ness Min­istry, of­fers ad­min­is­tra­tive sup­port, and lec­tures at Whole Life Col­lege. De­scrib­ing her min­istry as an “all around go per­son”, she does what­ever she can to sup­port her se­nior pas­tors and the church’s um­brella min­istry, Whole Life Min­istries.

The happy, con­tented Mor­ris, who ac­cepted Christ as her Lord and Saviour in 2011, al­lowed her thoughts to go back to an un­happy pe­riod in her life, even while giv­ing God thanks for res­cu­ing her.

She went down mem­ory lane to that pe­riod when she met and fell in love with the per­son who ‘rocked her world’. Al­though she saw un­com­fort­able signs that he could be very ag­gres­sive in his in­ter­ac­tion with other per­sons, she con­vinced her­self it would not be the same with her.

“It was never aimed at me, (so) I fig­ured there was no need to make a big deal of it. I guess I had for­got­ten that how a man treats oth­ers is a good in­di­ca­tion of how he will treat me,” she said in hind­sight.

When he popped the ques­tion af­ter five months of dat­ing, she did not hes­i­tate.

She didn’t con­sider im­por­tant stuff at the time, like if his goals were aligned with hers.

LONG­ING FOR MAR­RIAGE

For Mor­ris, all she could think about was how she had longed to be mar­ried and have chil­dren.

“I wanted to hear wed­ding bells,” she con­fessed.

A month af­ter the pro­posal he started us­ing deroga­tory names, swear­ing at her, shout­ing, slam­ming his fist into the door, and throw­ing tantrums.

“Al­though it made me un­easy, I thought that this was nor­mal be­hav­iour for peo­ple plan­ning a wed­ding and a fu­ture to­gether. It was only later that I re­alised that I was mak­ing ex­cuses, be­cause these be­hav­iours were not OK. They were clear signs of abuse,” she told Fam­ily and Re­li­gion.

With that re­al­i­sa­tion came the de­sire to leave him, but then she Tri­cia-Anne Mor­ris man­ages her blog and Face­book group, Women In­spir­ing Pros­per­ity, a group cre­ated to pro­vide a safe space where women can share their sto­ries even while they in­spire oth­ers. dis­cov­ered she was preg­nant. dev­as­ta­tion saw her seek­ing

She said he was so ex­cited com­fort from him. about the preg­nancy, he promised “We not only got back to­gether, to change, and she be­lieved him. we also moved in to­gether. Things

For a while, she en­joyed bliss, went sour pretty quickly,” she said. but it turned out to be short-lived. Then she found out he not Af­ter dis­cov­er­ing that he was only cheated, but brought home cheat­ing, she threat­ened to leave. his af­fairs. That had her That got him so mad he at­tacked pack­ing and leav­ing the home. her. Two years later, he was back

Promis­ing her­self he would in her life. Mor­ris, who was never get the chance to at­tack now a Chris­tian, was happy to her again, she was de­ter­mined hear he had changed his life, to make a clean break, but then too, and was a Chris­tian also. she had a mis­car­riage, and her They spent a lot of time talk­ing and pray­ing to­gether un­til Mor­ris was con­vinced he was a dif­fer­ent man. She started dat­ing him once more.

Soon, he was back to his old ways and Mor­ris re­alised she had made a mis­take, but agreed to at­tend coun­selling with him.

IT WOULD NEVER WORK

It was dur­ing coun­selling that she re­alised things could never work be­tween them as her part­ner felt he was en­ti­tled to abuse her.

Fast-for­ward to 2016 and it has been a year and a half since their sep­a­ra­tion.

Mor­ris has ef­fec­tively filled that void left by his ab­sence by creating her own rou­tines, vol­un­teer­ing and hang­ing out with friends.

“All this redi­rected en­ergy led me to grow in my faith. Dur­ing prayer time one day, I re­alised that I needed to re­pent of things that I did wrong in the re­la­tion­ship as well. The Lord then showed me that I needed to for­give him, for­give my­self, and just let go of the past.”

Her ex­pe­ri­ence, how­ever, has not soured her on men as she ac­knowl­edges that just as there are good women in the world, there are also good men.

“Nev­er­the­less, it must be strongly noted that abuse is wrong and no one should ac­cept it. It is never OK. You were ador­ingly and won­der­fully made [Psalm 139:14] in the im­age and like­ness of God [Ge­n­e­sis 1:26], which means He sees you as won­der­ful, beau­ti­ful and de­serv­ing of love.”

Look­ing ahead, Mor­ris said God has now re­vealed to her how to move from trauma to trea­sure.

“He showed me that my pur­pose now is to pro­vide services that will em­power women and busi­ness lead­ers. So now I’m an author, ra­dio host, mo­ti­va­tional speaker, blog­ger, event plan­ner and busi­ness coach,” she said.

Mor­ris also man­ages her blog and Face­book group, Women In­spir­ing Pros­per­ity, a group cre­ated, she said, to pro­vide a safe space where women can share their sto­ries even while they in­spire oth­ers.

Mor­ris, who hails from the Cor­po­rate Area, is a past stu­dent of Cam­pion Col­lege and the Univer­sity of the West Indies. She is the holder of a doc­tor­ate in busi­ness ad­min­is­tra­tion, which she makes use of in church min­istry.

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