Con­vinced my lover is preg­nant

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Dear Pas­tor,

I am in my late 20s and I am an avid reader of your col­umn. I have a girl­friend who is 23. At this time, I am sure she is preg­nant, but she does not want to ad­mit that I am the one who got her preg­nant.

She said that I am not re­spon­si­ble for the preg­nancy, but I know why. I come from a poor back­ground and she does not want her friends to know that I am the one who got her preg­nant.

She prefers to lie and say that it is one of the guys at her work­place that got her preg­nant.

This is my first child and I don’t want her to throw it away. She used to tell me that we could go out but she couldn’t in­tro­duce me to her par­ents.

We used to have sex ev­ery week, but the only time we did not use a con­dom (be­cause I ran out), I got her preg­nant.

Do you think that I should de­mand that she go to the doc­tor and find out if she is preg­nant? Th­ese days when I call her, she is not an­swer­ing. I am a hard worker and I want my child.

I was hop­ing to set­tle down with this girl. But she does not ap­pre­ci­ate the love I have for her. I should have known that she was not what she was pre­tend­ing to be.

Her par­ents thought that she was a princess but from the time I touched her, I re­alised that she had other men in her life.

I asked her and she ad­mit­ted that she had five dif­fer­ent men with whom she had sex. I still loved her. Now I don’t know what to do be­cause if she is preg­nant, I want to be the fa­ther of the child. Please tell me what to do. B.C.

Dear B.C.,

Quiet your­self. Use com­mon sense. You be­lieve that you have im­preg­nated this young woman. She has not told you so, but you are just run­ning up your mouth that you got her preg­nant. You are for­tu­nate that she al­lowed you to have sex with her.

Now you are mak­ing the world know that. You are not a wise young man. You should keep your­self quiet and stop em­bar­rass­ing the young woman.

You know that when the re­la­tion­ship started she was re­luc­tant in al­low­ing you to meet her par­ents. Now if she is preg­nant and she says that you are not re­spon­si­ble for the preg­nancy, stop mak­ing your­self a fool and leave her alone.

Time will tell whether or not she is preg­nant and if the child is yours. You are not a good man be­cause this woman told you that she had sex­ual re­la­tions with five other men and you have to men­tion it.

Shame on you; that was some­thing that was said to you pri­vately and you should not re­peat that. You re­peated it be­cause you want to shame this girl.

Pas­tor

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