Blended families: How to navigate challenges
Second, there are those who come from marriages that experienced divorce. Third are those that are a mix of the two.
Reasons that necessitated the break-up of the relationship in either case is integral to coming up with ways of overcoming past hurts and moving towards building new relationships. Remembering that relationships are complicated is helpful to building consensus on issues.
Strong and emotionally healthy individuals make relationships and marriage work better. For example, a spouse with children from an abusive relationship will have a lot of baggage to carry from that past. In addition, there could be people issues and conflicts that require resolving.
Therefore, challenges of blended families and how to deal with them will be a priority. As you mentioned, instilling discipline in children can lead to the breaking up of a relationship if a spouse ends up feeling like their child was being treated unfairly. Talking and walking towards a joint way of raising and disciplining children will be one of your key priorities.
Together with this are the issues of merging different family cultures. What were their agreements on issues concerning money, treatment of in-laws, how previous relationships still affect the current life. How were conflicts resolved and victories celebrated.
In essence, blended families could mean the bringing together of two family cultures, who enjoyed different ways of life, to live under the same roof. What level of tolerance would be needed? When studied well and approached with wisdom, a lot could happen that could add wisdom to how spouses and children live in blended families.
So, when should one say yes in light of such issues? The answer to this is not as simple as one may think. People are difficult to understand. However, do due diligence in the areas discussed. For example, what caused the separation in the previous relationships? Are there pending issues that were not dealt with? Who took responsibility for what? How has that affected how they moved forward? What was the family culture? What relational intelligence can I bring into this relationship?
These and many other questions can offer a place to start. In the end, it is a matter of choice. Hi
I may not fully understand your context. However, it's not only immoral but against the law for someone to harass or demand sexual favours from another. This is sexual harassment. Standing for one's values is key. Why desire to compromise and regret all your life? I encourage you to be steadfast. Sometimes good morals don't come about easily.
In addition, if indeed these people continue to be a problem, you need to report the threats to the police. I really do not see how they are able to penetrate into every space you or your boyfriend gets into. Their threats should not be allowed to continue. Instead, it should be met with the full force of the law. Allowing them to taunt you could give them the power they need to rule over you.
It may be right for you to place sexual harassment in its correct place and not allow others to get leeway to continue to mentally abuse you. As for them getting hold of your personal documents like certificates and destroying them, you should take legal action. Taking authority over your fears is also important. Fear can make one overly anxious. It may be difficult to force your man back to you. You have to defeat your fears.
I said in one of my article some time ago that, the way to a successful life is to stop feeding one's mind with negative thoughts. When we do, we will come to believe what we think about ourselves. I suggest that, instead of blame, feed your mind with positive thoughts, and make it your priority surround yourself with people who give you positive support. When you learn to accept and love yourself, this will help release joy and bring soberness to your heart and mind. You must believe deep down in your heart that you're destined to do great things including relating to people who have the capacity to add value to your life.