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Psychologists believe that being friends with your ex-lover could be an indication of psychopathic tendencies either in you or them. Psychopaths are said to poses the dark triad of personality traits, which are insensitivity, narcissism and manipulation. This basically explains why they are so comfortable using others to their own advantage. Research from Oakland University has shown peope are more likely to keep their exes in their social circle to maintain desirable exchanges of favours; especially of sexual nature. So if you’re dating a man who’s still very close to his ex, run! If that happens to be your situation, maybe you should see someone about that… For increased chances of getting your way, be it a raise or changes to your working environment, frame your argument from your boss’s perspective. It’s about staying true to your cause but showing your boss what benefits are in it for him or her. For example, if you want to change from the standard 8-5 working hours to flex-time, prove to them how this will be more effective for them and kick up productivity. Deliver the information through the jargon your boss would appreciate such as facts and figures or narratives based on what they prefer. Using their language will make them want to read your proposal.