STRESS-PROOF YOUR RELATIONSHIP FOR THE Holidays
in November, spending the holidays with his or her family may not be a good idea. The two of you have not yet established enough rapport with each other to go that route.
Also, putting your significant other under the glare of overly curious, nosy, and sometimes fault-finding relatives will not do your relationship any wonders either. Imagine him being put on the hot seat fielding uncomfortable questions such as “When is the wedding?”, “How did you meet?” (you met on Tinder), and the most dreaded “When are we going to hear the pitter patter of tiny little feet?” Cringe.
2. Consider each other’s interests when making plans. You want to sunbathe and watch the sunset in the Mara but he wants a beach Christmas in south coast. Learn to find a middle ground to keep both sides happy. How about splitting your vacation so that half of it is spent wherever the other wants to go, and the remaining half where the other fancies spending it? It means more expenses, but hey, if you both think the other is worth it, why not go the extra mile? 3. Prepare before meeting
his family. Your boyfriend wants to bring you to meet his family during the holidays. Now, before you freak out, pat yourself on the back first because this is definitely a good sign that he is serious about you. Then the scary part: What will you wear? What if you run out of things to say? What if they don’t like you? Why did you even agree to this meeting in the first place?!
Dress simply but elegantly. Outfits with plunging necklines that expose three-fourths of your breasts are a no-no. No gigantic dangling earrings that reach up to the armpit (okay, we exaggerate, but you get the drift). Your makeup should be a bit understated but still enhances your best features.
Do some sleuthing about your boyfriend’s family ahead of the meeting. Familiarise yourself with their names, work, hobbies and interests, etc. Imagine being able to say to his beloved Aunt Meg, for instance: “Oh, your nephew speaks so highly of you! He says you’re the best cook in the family and that your matoke is to die for!” That’s brownie points.