Reflect before making New Year’s resolutions
ALL the presents have been opened, the eerie elf is no longer on the shelf, and Santa is officially in the offseason. Now we approach ringing in a New Year with another list of high expectations.
January offers the lure of a fresh start, a clean slate to finally fix that nagging issue in our life: wealth, health or self. But before I teach you how to make SMART resolutions, I highly encourage you spend this week taking time to do an important step that is often overlooked — reflect.
Reflection is thinking about and linking experiences, looking for commonalities, differences and patterns. The goal is to pinpoint precisely the behaviours you wish to address and become aware of how it appears in all its ugly forms in order to effectively problem solve. Without reflection, you are just shooting out resolutions in the dark.
True reflection goes deeper than, “I eat too many cookies,” or “I buy too many shoes.” It is seriously looking back and uncovering what life experiences surrounded the cookie or shoe binge. Why? Because, in the upcoming year, you’ll never succeed at avoiding cookies or resisting another sale if you don’t know what triggered you in the first place.
During this last week of 2014, reflect in such a manner that it challenges your beliefs, values, cultural practices and social structures in order to assess their impact on your daily habits. Remove the rose-col- ored lenses and face your reality to aid you in cultivating resolutions that will work. Imagine alternative ways of thinking, doing and living in order to provide a fertile ground for change. And write it all down.
If you have trouble reflecting, use these simple questions as a catalyst. you achieve your 2014 resolutions? water become your default bever- age?
•Have you built the habit of consuming nutritious food?
you cultivated the habit of exer-
you had good rest? you feel physically fit in doing your daily work?
you built the habit of spending less than you earn?
you created the habit of saving? your career progress as you wanted
you have a life mission? you feel fulfilled?
you honestly say that you are healthy?
While not comprehensive, these questions at least give some ideas about how to better evaluate the past year. Now you will be able to see which areas require the most attention. It’s never too late to turn the tide and make a significant life change. If you weren’t happy with 2014 life results, try something different in 2015. Don’t stay stuck. Do better. — Choose better.