LUST FOR LIFE AN EXERCISE IN LOSING YOUR COOL
WHY IT’S SOMETIMES BETTER TO JUST LET IT ALL OUT.
We’ve all been there. You’re at work and your boyfriend/mum/friend calls and unknowingly annoys you to no end. But you’re at work so you just have to hang up, ignore it, and get on with things. Cut to later that evening and you’re inexplicably shouting at your cat for not eating its food.
When women experience an unpleasant emotion – like anger, sadness, guilt or stress – we tend to ignore it in the hope that it will go away. After all, we’re taught from a young age that ladies don’t lash out and vent. But think of negative emotions as being like bad reality TV: They just keep coming back in different forms, no matter how many times you change the channel. “A while ago, I was having problems with my then-boyfriend,” recalls Eva, 25. “We would fight at home and I’d still be upset when I arrived at the office. Obviously, I had to try and keep it together, but I was so tightly wound that I started snapping at my workmates for the most minor things.”
It’s not just people around you who feel the consequences of this; it also does you no good to be known as the woman who’s temperamental, especially at work. One lesser known effect of allowing your feelings to brew till breaking point is that it can also wreak havoc to your health. Listen to what psychologist Dr. Mary Casey has to say: “Ignoring your emotions is a recipe for disaster. When it reaches its limit, it can
NEVER ONE TO HIDE HER FRUSTRATIONS ON THE COURT, TENNIS STAR SERENA WILLIAMS DEMONSTRATES HOW TO LOSE ONE’S COOL.