HEART­LINES WHERE IS MY PRINCE CHARM­ING?

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SEARCH­ING FOR YOUR OWN LIAM/CHAN­NING/PRINCE CHARM­ING TO BE THE LEAD IN YOUR HAP­PILY EVER AF­TER? LIZZA GEBILAGIN SHARES A FEW LOVE TRUTHS.

Per­fect love is a mon­tage of mo­ments like th­ese: wet­ting your boyfriend with a gar­den hose (why wouldn’t you? He’s Liam Hemsworth); play-ar­gu­ing in the car as he belts out a soft-rock bal­lad; and him gaz­ing at you as you im­press him with your pi­ano play­ing (be­cause you’re Mi­ley Cyrus – pre-twerk­ing). And then, once the mon­tage fades, the two of you live hap­pily ever af­ter. Sigh. How do we find a love like Mi­ley and Liam’s in The Last Song? We know of at least one girl who tried. “My best friend was ob­sessed with The Last Song and wanted her re­la­tion­ship to be ex­actly like the movie,” says 19-yearold Ta­mara from Syd­ney. “She and her boyfriend played out scenes by run­ning on the beach and jump­ing into each other’s arms. It got too much. They’re not to­gether any­more. She put way too much pres­sure on the re­la­tion­ship to be per­fect and didn’t ap­pre­ci­ate it for what it was.”

That there is the start of an un­sat­is­fy­ing search for a type of love that’s only made for Hol­ly­wood. “When we meet some­body, we want to fall in love with an il­lu­sion and put off fac­ing up to re­al­ity as long as pos­si­ble,” says psy­chol­o­gist Dr Bruce Stevens from the Univer­sity of Can­berra. “Re­al­ity can never match the il­lu­sion, so we trade it in.”

This means Ta­mara’s bestie (and maybe even you?) ends up go­ing from re­la­tion­ship to re­la­tion­ship, hop­ing that the next guy will be the per­ma­nent male lead in her hap­pily-ever-af­ter mon­tages. “You keep re­cy­cling [part­ners], which keeps the il­lu­sion go­ing, be­cause the il­lu­sion is achiev­able ‘if only I find the right per­son’,” says Dr Stevens. So

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