The Se­crets Of It Girls

You can be one, too!

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Damn that Olivia Palermo and her fel­low It Girls. They’ve made suc­cess, fame and for­tune look oh-so-easy. From their wardrobes to their ca­reers, the Rita Oras and Erin Was­sons of the world seem to have it all. But you don’t need to be the face of Burberry or have Karl Lager­feld on speed dial to get some of what they’re hav­ing.

They Do Their Own Thing

Ex­hibit A: Kate Moss. The woman threw out the fash­ion rule book long ago and wears what­ever the hell she wants. And see what hap­pened? Psy­chol­o­gist Gemma Cribb gives this “I’ll do it my way, thanks” at­ti­tude the thumbs up. “It chal­lenges our ideas that con­for­mity is nec­es­sary for like­abil­ity,” she says. Trans­la­tion: Be brave enough to do your own thing with­out seek­ing ev­ery­one else’s ap­proval. You may be pleas­antly sur­prised by the re­sults.

They Can Stand Alone

It Girls never let a man­bag weigh them down. If your dude’s be­ing a douche, book a solo ticket to life and dis­cover be­ing fab­u­lous in your sin­gle­dom!

They Do What They’re Good At

Suc­cess comes from do­ing what you love. It sounds ob­vi­ous but many peo­ple for­get this. Even Alexa Chung made this mis­take – she mod­elled in her teens and was mod­er­ately suc­cess­ful but then went down the TV pre­sent­ing route, landed her first gig on a UK mu­sic show called and the rest is It Girl his­tory. Cribb says, “Look to­wards what you en­joy do­ing and have an urge to do, even if there is no ex­ter­nal in­cen­tive (like grades, prizes, peer pres­sure, money). Usu­ally this is what you’re good at and, even if you’re not the best, you’ll have more mo­ti­va­tion to stay en­gaged and so will nat­u­rally get bet­ter.” Easy, right? It Girls get out be­cause be­ing seen is their bread and but­ter. So get off the couch, pause Girls (you’ll come back to it later), and leave the freakin’ house! Net­work­ing doesn’t hap­pen in your one­sie. At the very least, grab your bestie and hit the club . There’s sure to be a cou­ple of cute guys around to flirt with!

They Al­ways Put Them­selves Out There

“If you never speak up about what you want or need, no one will know to help you,” Cribb says. “Most peo­ple have anx­i­ety when they ap­proach some­thing new or that they feel is im­por­tant to them. As such, the key is not to ap­proach it fearlessly but to feel the fear and do it any­way.” Just like Rita Ora. She sent her mu­sic to Jay-Z’s right-hand man. Next thing she knew, she was sign­ing a record deal with his la­bel, Roc Na­tion.

They Can Strike A Pose

It may not be the fash­ion pages of a mag but your In­sta­gram ac­count is your own per­sonal style spread. Chan­nel Bar­bara Palvin and prac­tise your best an­gles – but be­ware selfie-over­load syn­drome! And be warned – in the world of be­ing “It”, you can be out as quickly as you came in!

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