The Secrets Of It Girls
You can be one, too!
Damn that Olivia Palermo and her fellow It Girls. They’ve made success, fame and fortune look oh-so-easy. From their wardrobes to their careers, the Rita Oras and Erin Wassons of the world seem to have it all. But you don’t need to be the face of Burberry or have Karl Lagerfeld on speed dial to get some of what they’re having.
They Do Their Own Thing
Exhibit A: Kate Moss. The woman threw out the fashion rule book long ago and wears whatever the hell she wants. And see what happened? Psychologist Gemma Cribb gives this “I’ll do it my way, thanks” attitude the thumbs up. “It challenges our ideas that conformity is necessary for likeability,” she says. Translation: Be brave enough to do your own thing without seeking everyone else’s approval. You may be pleasantly surprised by the results.
They Can Stand Alone
It Girls never let a manbag weigh them down. If your dude’s being a douche, book a solo ticket to life and discover being fabulous in your singledom!
They Do What They’re Good At
Success comes from doing what you love. It sounds obvious but many people forget this. Even Alexa Chung made this mistake – she modelled in her teens and was moderately successful but then went down the TV presenting route, landed her first gig on a UK music show called and the rest is It Girl history. Cribb says, “Look towards what you enjoy doing and have an urge to do, even if there is no external incentive (like grades, prizes, peer pressure, money). Usually this is what you’re good at and, even if you’re not the best, you’ll have more motivation to stay engaged and so will naturally get better.” Easy, right? It Girls get out because being seen is their bread and butter. So get off the couch, pause Girls (you’ll come back to it later), and leave the freakin’ house! Networking doesn’t happen in your onesie. At the very least, grab your bestie and hit the club . There’s sure to be a couple of cute guys around to flirt with!
They Always Put Themselves Out There
“If you never speak up about what you want or need, no one will know to help you,” Cribb says. “Most people have anxiety when they approach something new or that they feel is important to them. As such, the key is not to approach it fearlessly but to feel the fear and do it anyway.” Just like Rita Ora. She sent her music to Jay-Z’s right-hand man. Next thing she knew, she was signing a record deal with his label, Roc Nation.
They Can Strike A Pose
It may not be the fashion pages of a mag but your Instagram account is your own personal style spread. Channel Barbara Palvin and practise your best angles – but beware selfie-overload syndrome! And be warned – in the world of being “It”, you can be out as quickly as you came in!