You Should Come First
Initially, I couldn’t make sense of the in-flight safety announcement on the oxygen masks that says, “If you are travelling with children, or are seated next to someone who needs assistance, place the mask on yourself first, then offer assistance.” It just seemed selfish until I realised that I wouldn’t be helping anyone if I weren’t saving myself first. The same principle applies when it comes to finding the love of your life. Putting others before yourself is a good thing except when it comes to finding The One. A lot of relationships don’t work because we forget that the other person is supposed to enrich and not complete us (take that, Jerry Maguire!). So before you go into your next relationship or lament why it’s so difficult for you to find someone you can truly be happy with, ask yourself this question: “What am I bringing to the table?” I was stuck when a friend asked me that not too long ago. I no longer remember my replies but I recall that they were neither convincing nor impressive. Which then brought me to this question: If I couldn’t be happy with myself, how could I think that I was a catch? Half the time, we end up in dreadful relationships because we accept the love we think we deserve. It became clear to me then that in order to be loved, I should first learn to love myself. It is only when you’re the best version of yourself can you expect the same from your partner. Agree? So, if there’s one person you vow to love more, it’d better be YOU! After all, this issue is all about that ... Enjoy the issue!