You Should Come First

CLEO (Malaysia) - - EDITOR'S NOTE -

Ini­tially, I couldn’t make sense of the in-flight safety an­nounce­ment on the oxy­gen masks that says, “If you are trav­el­ling with chil­dren, or are seated next to some­one who needs as­sis­tance, place the mask on your­self first, then of­fer as­sis­tance.” It just seemed self­ish un­til I re­alised that I wouldn’t be help­ing any­one if I weren’t sav­ing my­self first. The same prin­ci­ple ap­plies when it comes to find­ing the love of your life. Putting oth­ers be­fore your­self is a good thing ex­cept when it comes to find­ing The One. A lot of re­la­tion­ships don’t work be­cause we for­get that the other per­son is sup­posed to en­rich and not com­plete us (take that, Jerry Maguire!). So be­fore you go into your next re­la­tion­ship or lament why it’s so dif­fi­cult for you to find some­one you can truly be happy with, ask your­self this ques­tion: “What am I bring­ing to the ta­ble?” I was stuck when a friend asked me that not too long ago. I no longer re­mem­ber my replies but I re­call that they were nei­ther con­vinc­ing nor im­pres­sive. Which then brought me to this ques­tion: If I couldn’t be happy with my­self, how could I think that I was a catch? Half the time, we end up in dread­ful re­la­tion­ships be­cause we ac­cept the love we think we de­serve. It be­came clear to me then that in or­der to be loved, I should first learn to love my­self. It is only when you’re the best ver­sion of your­self can you ex­pect the same from your part­ner. Agree? So, if there’s one per­son you vow to love more, it’d bet­ter be YOU! Af­ter all, this is­sue is all about that ... En­joy the is­sue!

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