Word To Your Past

Where there were once chap­er­ones keep­ing a strict eye on se­cret kisses or clan­des­tine touch­ing, tech­nol­ogy is now me­di­at­ing our re­la­tion­ships.

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What would you say to your younger self? Our read­ers cue in.

No gen­er­a­tion in his­tory has dated, mated or re­lated like we do right now. We do far more chat­ting on­line or via text mes­sage than we do face to face. Prob­lem is, there is no course you can take to get it right; it’s all bi­nary trial and er­ror. With that in mind, here are a few tips to take your on­line flirt­ing to the next level and prac­ti­cally guar­an­tee he will want to take your cy­ber in­ter­ac­tion into the real world.

The beauty of lan­guage is that it is con­stantly evolv­ing. Dier­ent eras give rise to their own man­ner­isms and terms but some rules should stay in place. For ex­am­ple, there is ab­so­lutely noth­ing wrong with us­ing words like “totes” and “tom­moz” or acronyms such as “YOLO”, but more men than you re­alise will think less of you if you can’t be both­ered with apostrophes or punc­tu­a­tion. its’ a se­ri­ous turn-o for most guys’. See what I mean? The same ap­plies to spell­ing. I know it sounds old-fash­ioned and pedan­tic but you don’t want to blow a po­ten­tial ro­mance be­cause you’re overly ca­sual with the dier­ence be­tween “there” and “their”. 3G and 4G net­works have al­lowed us to ping reams of cor­re­spon­dence back and forth with un­ri­valled speed. That said, don’t be afraid to take things back a notch or two. Your re­sponse doesn’t have to in­stan­ta­neous. But what to say? That’s where the in­for­ma­tion su­per­high­way comes into its own. Don’t hes­i­tate to har­ness the power of the web. When there’s a lull in the convo, throw in a link to a Vine, meme or news­pa­per head­line and ask what he thinks of it. By the same to­ken, it’s good to re­mind your­self that funny is al­ways a win­ner. If you can’t come up with a “totes hi­lar” line your­self,

head to a quote from some­one who will make you seem bet­ter read than you ac­tu­ally are. As long as you at­tribute your sources and don’t pre­tend you came up with some­thing you didn’t. Fi­nally, while you may rou­tinely end emails or mes­sages to fe­male friends with “x” and “o”, be­ware that some men may in­ter­pret these sym­bols as a sign that you want to get your pash on. Af­ter all, you’ve sent him a vir­tual kiss and hug so why wouldn’t you want to fol­low through? Sim­i­lar re­straint should come into play with your use of the word “love”. At the end of emails or texts, it’s all too easy to let your fin­gers go onto au­topi­lot and type “all my love”, “lots of love” or some­thing sim­i­lar. Of course, it’s not nec­es­sar­ily a dec­la­ra­tion of your feel­ings but it’s bet­ter to leave it less open to mis­in­ter­pre­ta­tion with a “can’t wait to see you” or “re­ally en­joyed chat­ting, got to go, speak soon?”.


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