Word To Your Past
Where there were once chaperones keeping a strict eye on secret kisses or clandestine touching, technology is now mediating our relationships.
What would you say to your younger self? Our readers cue in.
No generation in history has dated, mated or related like we do right now. We do far more chatting online or via text message than we do face to face. Problem is, there is no course you can take to get it right; it’s all binary trial and error. With that in mind, here are a few tips to take your online flirting to the next level and practically guarantee he will want to take your cyber interaction into the real world.
The beauty of language is that it is constantly evolving. Dierent eras give rise to their own mannerisms and terms but some rules should stay in place. For example, there is absolutely nothing wrong with using words like “totes” and “tommoz” or acronyms such as “YOLO”, but more men than you realise will think less of you if you can’t be bothered with apostrophes or punctuation. its’ a serious turn-o for most guys’. See what I mean? The same applies to spelling. I know it sounds old-fashioned and pedantic but you don’t want to blow a potential romance because you’re overly casual with the dierence between “there” and “their”. 3G and 4G networks have allowed us to ping reams of correspondence back and forth with unrivalled speed. That said, don’t be afraid to take things back a notch or two. Your response doesn’t have to instantaneous. But what to say? That’s where the information superhighway comes into its own. Don’t hesitate to harness the power of the web. When there’s a lull in the convo, throw in a link to a Vine, meme or newspaper headline and ask what he thinks of it. By the same token, it’s good to remind yourself that funny is always a winner. If you can’t come up with a “totes hilar” line yourself,
head to a quote from someone who will make you seem better read than you actually are. As long as you attribute your sources and don’t pretend you came up with something you didn’t. Finally, while you may routinely end emails or messages to female friends with “x” and “o”, beware that some men may interpret these symbols as a sign that you want to get your pash on. After all, you’ve sent him a virtual kiss and hug so why wouldn’t you want to follow through? Similar restraint should come into play with your use of the word “love”. At the end of emails or texts, it’s all too easy to let your fingers go onto autopilot and type “all my love”, “lots of love” or something similar. Of course, it’s not necessarily a declaration of your feelings but it’s better to leave it less open to misinterpretation with a “can’t wait to see you” or “really enjoyed chatting, got to go, speak soon?”.