Long Dis­tance Cut Short

Some­times ab­sence makes you re­alise you’re both not meant for each other.


Mak­ing a long-dis­tance re­la­tion­ship work isn’t easy — you can’t talk to your part­ner as of­ten as you’d like to due to the time dif­fer­ence and as for phys­i­cal in­ti­macy? For­get about it. But this doesn’t mean a long dis­tance re­la­tion­ship is doomed to fail. How­ever, if you’re see­ing any of these red flags, it might be time to re­con­sider your fu­ture to­gether.

Sce­nario #1: Re­lo­ca­tion Isn’t Part Of The Plan

If you’re look­ing to have a fu­ture to­gether with your part­ner (that is, you’re plan­ning to get mar­ried and have kids even­tu­ally), then at the end of the day, you two must want to be to­gether phys­i­cally. Are you pre­pared to say good­bye to your ca­reer and friends, and start over in a for­eign coun­try?

Sce­nario #2: Com­mu­ni­ca­tion Is A OneSided Af­fair

It can be dif­fi­cult to keep up with your part­ner’s life con­sid­er­ing the dif­fer­ences in time zones and life­styles. But surely you can both make time to chat and keep each other up­dated on what’s hap­pen­ing in your lives, right? If you both find it a chore, then you might have a prob­lem. But you should also keep this in mind: There are no hard and fast rules when it comes to com­mu­ni­cat­ing in a re­la­tion­ship, just as there’s no set num­ber of hours you need to spend talk­ing to each other. What’s more im­por­tant is that the both of you are on the same page about what you ex­pect from the re­la­tion­ship.

Sce­nario #3: You Don’t Trust Each Other

There’s the con­stant fear that your part­ner might find some­one else when you’re both apart but this is why trust is im­por­tant. It might be un­com­fort­able to talk about the jeal­ousy is­sues af­fect­ing your re­la­tion­ship at first, but it pays to lay them out on the ta­ble and see how you can as­suage each other’s fears and in­se­cu­ri­ties. But if the sit­u­a­tion doesn’t im­prove, it might be time to walk away.

Sce­nario #4: Your Re­la­tion­ship Has Run Its Course

Fact is people change and even the hap­pi­est of cou­ples some­times drift apart af­ter a while. When this hap­pens, it might be time for the both of you to move on with your lives. At the end of the day, you can try to make an LDR work, but if a prob­lem keeps reac­cur­ing, cut­ting it short might save you a whole lot of pain in the long run.

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