Liar, Liar, Your Life’s On Fire
Everybody lies but just how much is too much? Ruba Nackeeran gets the scoop from a few readers about their tales of getting tangled in a web of lies.
“Imet Matt at a friend’s party sometime ago. It was a casual thing but I developed a crush on him. I started blogging about him and certain fantasy situations that I wished were true. Looking back at it now, I can’t help but cringe at the things I wrote about! I would write that Matt visited me at work and was always sending me love notes and romantic texts. All of these were of course lies but I couldn’t help but write about them. It was all so convincing, even my friends and workmates believed it. Things were going really well in this alternate universe of mine until collided with reality and it all blew up in my face. My friend who hosted the party where Matt and I met found my blog and asked him about it. Matt was mortified and let’s just say the confrontation was horrendous.” Cassandra Mak
recounts her nightmare of being exposed as a pathological liar.
We’ve all encountered our fair share of pathological liars but the question is why do they do it? What makes them want to stretch the truth beyond recognition? According to Dr Anasuya Jegathesan, Programme Chair of Masters in Counselling, Senior Lecturer, and Counsellor at HELP University’s Department of Psychology, Cassandra lied to feel good about herself. “It’s a form of self-soothing because the quality of experience she had clearly imagined did not match her expectations. So she did what romance authors do – create an imaginary world where these authors put themselves in the place of the protagonist but acknowledge that it isn’t them, Samantha and people like her forget to draw the line,” says Anasuya. Although these types of lies are not malicious they can be self-damaging because the liars will never be happy with their reality.