Liar, Liar, Your Life’s On Fire

Ev­ery­body lies but just how much is too much? Ruba Nac­k­eeran gets the scoop from a few read­ers about their tales of get­ting tan­gled in a web of lies.

CLEO (Malaysia) - - COVER STORY -

“Imet Matt at a friend’s party some­time ago. It was a ca­sual thing but I de­vel­oped a crush on him. I started blog­ging about him and cer­tain fan­tasy sit­u­a­tions that I wished were true. Look­ing back at it now, I can’t help but cringe at the things I wrote about! I would write that Matt vis­ited me at work and was al­ways send­ing me love notes and ro­man­tic texts. All of these were of course lies but I couldn’t help but write about them. It was all so con­vinc­ing, even my friends and work­mates be­lieved it. Things were go­ing re­ally well in this al­ter­nate uni­verse of mine un­til col­lided with re­al­ity and it all blew up in my face. My friend who hosted the party where Matt and I met found my blog and asked him about it. Matt was mor­ti­fied and let’s just say the con­fronta­tion was hor­ren­dous.” Cas­san­dra Mak

re­counts her nightmare of be­ing ex­posed as a patho­log­i­cal liar.

We’ve all en­coun­tered our fair share of patho­log­i­cal liars but the ques­tion is why do they do it? What makes them want to stretch the truth be­yond recog­ni­tion? Ac­cord­ing to Dr Ana­suya Je­gath­e­san, Pro­gramme Chair of Masters in Coun­selling, Se­nior Lec­turer, and Coun­sel­lor at HELP Univer­sity’s Depart­ment of Psy­chol­ogy, Cas­san­dra lied to feel good about her­self. “It’s a form of self-sooth­ing be­cause the qual­ity of ex­pe­ri­ence she had clearly imag­ined did not match her ex­pec­ta­tions. So she did what ro­mance au­thors do – cre­ate an imag­i­nary world where these au­thors put them­selves in the place of the pro­tag­o­nist but ac­knowl­edge that it isn’t them, Samantha and people like her for­get to draw the line,” says Ana­suya. Al­though these types of lies are not ma­li­cious they can be self-dam­ag­ing be­cause the liars will never be happy with their re­al­ity.

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