Best Friends For­ever... Not!

CLEO (Malaysia) - - COVER STORY -

About two years ago Gwen met Sab­rina, a re­ally nice girl with a friendly per­son­al­ity and the two soon be­came fast friends. Sab­rina, who was en­gaged at that time, con­stantly bugged Gwen to meet one of her sin­gle guy friends, Imran. Fi­nally, on one of their nights out, Gwen met him. He turned out to be smart, good look­ing, and re­ally fun to talk to. Need­less to say, Gwen and Imran hit it off. Later, on that same night af­ter step­ping out to chat with an­other friend, Gwen walked in to see Sab­rina and Imran mak­ing out. When she con­fronted her the fol­low­ing day about the in­ci­dent, Sab­rina brushed it off by apol­o­gis­ing and say­ing she was drunk. A few weeks later, Gwen learnt that her “trusted” best friend had been spread­ing hor­ri­ble ru­mours about her and that this has al­ways been Sab­rina’s modus operandi. She had been known to rope in new friends and shower them with gifts, play­ing the role of the best friend down to the tee only to later stab them in the back by ru­in­ing their rep­u­ta­tion. As for the guys she claimed to want to in­tro­duce her friends to – she would even­tu­ally get in­volved with them sex­u­ally.

Ex­pert Take

“These types of liars are known as the users and abusers and if you can help yourself, stay away from them.” Dr Je­gath­e­san urged. She de­scribed them as self-serv­ing liars who lie for power and con­trol with a ma­nip­u­la­tive men­tal­ity. By ly­ing, they boost their wants and needs and if you con­front them, they might act guilty but in re­al­ity are far from feel­ing it. And be­ware, if they’re not feign­ing guilt, they’re most prob­a­bly about to send you on a guilt-trip of your own.

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