Office romances may not be a good idea.
Your eyes follow him around the office. You catch his eye over the coffee machine. You make small talk at the printer… But where is it all going? More importantly, can it ever go anywhere with a colleague?
The Short Term
If you’re looking for a fling, stay far away from your colleagues. Yes, you may think the guy from Marketing is hot stuff, but he may not be so easy on the eye after you hear him spinning stories about your last date. You don’t want to develop a reputation for being a serial dater.
The Long Term
But what happens if you genuinely develop feelings for a colleague and believe things could get serious? If the feelings are mutual, then dating is the natural progression, as long as things are kept discreet (office PDAs are a definite no-no). Make sure he’s on the same page, so you don’t find yourself being gossip fodder over lunch. However, if you’re not certain your feelings are requited, don’t rush to proclaim your undying love. Friendly lunches and dinners are a good way to test the waters. If you find he’s not taking the initiative to suggest them, it’s probably a sign he’s not keen. But if he’s your boss (even if he looks like Chris Hemsworth), don’t go there. Getting cozy with a superior can send the wrong signals to your colleagues, plus if it goes sour he could make things difficult for you.
When things go pear-shaped, regardless of whether it was a shortlived romance or something more, it’s good to exercise some damage control. The first rule is to never dish the dirt, even if he was in the wrong. It’s not great if your boss thinks you can’t hold your tongue and love to drag your personal life into the workplace. The second: if you have to work closely together, be the bigger person and don’t try to get out of it or give him the evil eye. It’s easier said than done, but that’s what your friends outside of work are for: postwork drinks where you can have heart-to-heart talks.
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