I was deciding where to go on a date when a mate told me choosing the place should be based on the girl’s personality. If she’s really thoughtful and caring, take her to the local restaurant that no-one goes to. If she’s a party girl, take her for beers then go meet up with her friends. If you just want to sleep with her, take her to your favourite restaurant with the best man-food so dinner
isn’t so painful.
The premise of this advice seems genuine because the guy is really trying to figure out where to take his date, but Dr McMillan says his mate slips into a creepy pattern of basing restaurant choice on whether or not he just wants to sleep with someone. “Men like him are why I advise women to do something in the daytime for their first date and don’t drink alcohol.” If you find yourself at a dude food restaurant with zero atmosphere, ditch him ASAP.
“I tell my mates to always get the bill at a cool (not overly expensive) restaurant then book her an Uber ride home. Tell her you’ve gotta take your little sister to brekkie or your gran for a walk – don’t try to have sex on the first night if you want to start something.”
Here’s some straight-up advice that doesn’t lend itself to games or ploys, but to a fun evening with a nice guy. And who doesn’t love the idea of a guy booking you an Uber ride home? So. Damn. Thoughtful. Dr McMillan agrees. “Tom is a real winner! He not only advises his mates to put in some effort, he’s noticed that you’re more likely to build something good if you don’t have sex on the first night.” She says this isn’t about being old-fashioned, but that people tend to stay together longer if they get to know each other before having sex.