LOVE WITH­OUT LA­BELS

Sarah*, now 26, first dated an­other girl at 18, and has since had re­la­tion­ships with boys and girls.

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“I’d only had boyfriends prior to Elise* and was go­ing through a rough time be­fore I met her. We were friends at first, but the re­la­tion­ship grew into some­thing more when I started re­ly­ing on her for emo­tional sup­port. Just like a first kiss, it was a lit­tle awk­ward but I never felt un­com­fort­able or ques­tioned it. I was at­tracted to her. I’m af­fec­tion­ate by na­ture so tak­ing things fur­ther was just an ex­ten­sion of that friend­ship. When I started to an­nounce the re­la­tion­ship to fam­ily and friends, there was over­whelm­ing sup­port for the most part, but it wasn’t long be­fore ques­tions about my sex­ual ori­en­ta­tion came up. ‘So you’re a les­bian, right?’ friends would ask. Peo­ple wanted an­swers, but I didn’t know what to tell them. I found it im­pos­si­ble to put a la­bel on it. Since that first ex­pe­ri­ence, I’ve had girl­friends and boyfriends. I’m now en­gaged to a man who un­der­stands my past, and re­spects and loves me re­gard­less. I’ll never re­gret go­ing with my gut feel­ing. You can’t choose who you fall in love with.”

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