Me & MY Or
How To Make Me Come, a Tumblr of orgasm confessions, has gone viral. “We wanted to start a
dialogue about how women achieve sexual pleasure; something often ignored, or devalued,” says founder Sylvia. Make like these women and get
sharing at howtomakemecome.tumblr.com.
“I spent the first 25 years of my life as a lesbian, knowing I was always secretly bisexual. Then I tried it with a man. It seemed OK. But with a lot of trial and too much error, I decided men had no
idea. Let’s face it, I’ve worked with real experts. Giving the direction ‘fingers inside me with clitoral stimulation’ seemed to cause as much confusion as telling him to look behind something to find the milk. I half-expected him to stand at the foot of the bed, and gaze at me in endless confusion at this foreign concept.”
“I didn’t learn how to orgasm until a guy went down on me in college. He discovered my clitoris for me. I wish my sex ed teacher had said, ‘Hey, there’s a button above your vagina that puts it into
turbo mode,’ but no one told me.” “I love masturbating. I know just what I like, and I always, always come. I’ve never had an orgasm during sex. Not even during oral sex, to which friends have exclaimed, ‘Seriously?’ I understand how I come, and it has to be by my own hand.” “I equated having an orgasm with just getting really, really close to it. I didn’t understand the burst of euphoria everyone was talking about. When I was crabby and people told me I needed to get laid, my response was, ‘I get laid all the time and I’m still in a bad mood.’ But on a tremendous, rare night where surely pigs flew, Halley’s comet shot by, and volcanoes spouted ice cubes elsewhere in the world, we got intimate and I finally came.” “There’s a big heap of masculinity at stake in being able to make a woman orgasm the right way. But the way to actually make it
happen is to do it her way.” “He would go down on me for five minutes and then come up and say, ‘Did you come?’ As if I were going to say, ‘Yes, I just did!
“How do I explain to someone that I like it rough and fast, but still want someone to hold me after and call me pretty? How do you really let someone in, and not just physically? Sure, I can explain the logistics of my sex organs, but I don’t know if I can explain the inner-workings of my brain. Until I feel safe, I simply can’t give in to an orgasm because I’m scared of losing control.”