WHO’S YOUR â 8 Aã IDOL?
No, this isn’t another reality TV show. Here’s how your favourite couples can teach you a lot about love.
There’s a cute picture of RPatz and FKA Twigs doing the rounds on Tumblr at the moment. In it, Rob is sitting near the stage that Twigs is performing on, curled into a semi-ball. He’s not drawing any attention to himself, he’s just staring at her, mesmerised. This shot is just a real glimpse of a man looking adoringly at his lady. I love it, as I love them as a couple, and once I got over my jealousy, this beautiful Brit duo shot straight to the top of my ‘Relationship Idols’ list.
A lot of people look to their parents’ relationship as a marker of what they want out of life with another person (not me – my parents are friggin’ crazy), or relatives further removed. My friend April told me her great aunt and uncle were married for more than 60 years, and that he used to sign off his letters to her from the war with a hundred kisses. There’s also the fictional couples we love to love (I cried when Brittany and Santana got married on Glee), or the celeb relationships we just can’t get enough of. Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie are a pretty amazing couple, new parents Blake Lively and Ryan Reynolds seem crazy in love, and, speaking of which, Beyoncé and Jay Z are still killing it, even after that elevator incident. And Lena Dunham’s #nofilter pyjama selfies with her boyfriend Jack Antonoff are what I imagine heaven looks like.
But, really, you can learn a lot about yourself and what’s important to you in a relationship by analysing any couple you look up to. What postive traits do they have? What is it about how they treat each other that appeals to you? How do they have fun? Of course, we don’t ever really know what goes on in anyone’s relationship 24/7. All couples do get on each other’s nerves sometimes, but if they’re a good couple, chances are they handle hiccups or bigger conflicts really well. Plus, it’s likely they respect each other’s feelings and talk things out without staying on the battlefield for too long – that’s another relationship goal I’ve added to my list. But my all-time fave pair have to be friends of mine – Jules and Sam. They’re regular people, doing normal things, but you’d think they were comedians the way they laugh with each other. They have the exact same sense of humour and similar ways of communicating; they praise one another, and always support each other’s choices. They’re in love, but