: YOU’RE DOING IT WRONG
How bad are girls at picking up? Apparently, much worse than you think!
Here’s some news that’ll come as no surprise to anyone who has tried to flirt. A study has revealed we’re pretty terrible at making moves and picking up on I-think-you’re-hot cues. Researchers from the University of Kansas have found that only 36% of men and 18% of women could tell when someone was being flirtatious.
Although it doesn’t specify, I imagine the results came from people assuming others were rarely flirting with them, which is nice. But if I’d been a part of this study, I reckon I would have skewed the results a little because, as the egomaniac that I am, I always think people are flirting with me. You smiled at me in the supermarket line? Obviously you want to ask me out. You liked my pic on Instagram? That’s practically a proposal. Our ability to determine whether or not someone is interested in us has always been an issue. Back in the day, we were told boys pulled on our ponytails because they liked us but were too scared to admit it. Of course, this was problematic. Cut to life out of primary school and we take bad behaviour as a sign of interest, when they are probably treating us mean to not keep us keen.
However, the flipside to this is the aforementioned belief that anyone who shows us some common decency clearly wants to get in our pants. You see, we’ve become so accustomed not to engage with people in real life that when someone displays some basic social skills, we’re convinced they’re totally flirting up a storm.
I used to think I was a good flirt, mainly because I’m a big one. I want to make everyone like me. And that’s pretty much what flirting is – making someone believe you’re a hell of a catch. Anyway, I say “used to” because a few months ago, I was batting my eyelashes at a bartender who I thought was picking up exactly what I was putting down. That was, until he looked at me in horror because my hair was on fire (yep). It seems that in an attempt to do a sexy hair flip, I’d leaned over a candle and set myself alight. Needless to say, it wasn’t conducive to scoring a guy’s digits. So the next time you think you’re failing to attract a potential mate, you can be thankful you’re not as hopeless as me. Also, it seems the odds that I’m going to die alone are increasing.
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