The worst movie cliché happened to me. My brother’s girlfriend and I got drunk, and we had sex. We’ve agreed to keep it quiet but I feel so guilty. Should I bring this up? Bloody hell. It’s all sunshine and unicorns this issue, isn’t it? What you’re suggesting here is a double betrayal – the act and the lie which followed it. Ask yourself: Is this something you really want to live with? You both
Ascrewed up big time (no pun intended, really) but your brother at least deserves the truth, and it’s up to him to decide where you go to from there. And, by the way, alcohol is no excuse.
QI’m a feministminded man and I know my rights from wrongs but icky thoughts like incest, rape scenarios and domination still turn me on. Does this make me a bad person?
ASo much hypocrisy, we don’t even know where to start here. How, on the one hand, can you call yourself a “feminist” yet the constant theme of your fantasies seem to involve female subjugation? It’s also interesting that you use the infantilisation “icky”. They are more than that, mate. Aside from the fact two of the acts you describe are flat out illegal, and the third needs to be acted out under strictly negotiated terms, I’d keep these ideas under lock or in therapy, for now. Having these thoughts does not make you a bad person per se, the slightest notion of acting on them does.